Dating : Bad Boy or Alpha Male?

The Art of Flirting for the Alpha Male

Flirting can be an exciting and a terrifying experience. There is a certain vulnerability to sincere flirting as you are really putting yourself out there and expressing your interest in another person.

There is a complexity to flirting, too. We all have our own ways of expressing our interest in someone — what might seem like acceptable flirting to you, may come across as too aggressive and forward to your “loveliness”.

It’s like a complicated maze we have to work through.

Truth: A woman needs to feel mentally aroused before she can become physically aroused. Flirting shows her that you are interested and attracted to her. And like men, women respond favorably to positive and uplifting energy and not negging-tive energy.

The art of flirting with a woman works best when you …

Connect with your eyes — The truth is in the eyes and a woman who is interested in man wants to feel his focus and know she has his undivided attention. Sincerity is really conveyed by the way we look at each other when we interact. Making her feel important will open the doors of true connection.

Keep it playful — flirting is supposed to be light and fun, even when there is a sexual overtone to it. Keeping it fun allows her to relax and also gives you an opportunity to show off your sense of humor — and let’s face it, all women love a man with a great sense of humor.

Make her smile — compliments are never wasted on anyone, let alone the woman who holds your interest. I’m not just talking about her appearance — she probably already knows you find her attractive if you’re flirting with her. A woman also needs to know you like her for who she is on the inside. When she feels safe in the knowledge that you like who she is, she learns to trust you.

Touch her — don’t get creepy touchy-feely, but don’t be afraid to reach out and touch her either. Touch bridges the gap between you and your woman, and gives her permission to touch you too. Just be mindful to keep your touch to her safe areas of her body: hands, arms and upper back are great spots to begin without making things awkward.

Be clear: Avoid the “friend-zone” — Men naturally want things to move forward while women may naturally erect the barriers when things are moving too fast. It is all about respecting and paying attention to her boundaries, but also making your intentions clear — that you want to be sexual with her. A woman needs to be aware of your interest or she will end up “friend-zoning” you.