Dating : Dating After A Breakup

After enduring a rather painful and traumatic break up, the last thing you expect to find is love. Except when you do.

They always say that love finds you when you’re least expecting it. After enduring a rather painful and traumatic break up, the last thing you expect to find is love. Not until you’ve at least had some time by yourself first, to find yourself, to love yourself, right?

Well, that’s what I thought until I met him.

It had been two months since I had ended things with my ex. After a year or so of arguing, crying, raging and ranting we were both exhausted. It clearly wasn’t working for either of us. Although it was a mutual decision, it still was a hard one to make. After being so close to someone for so long it seemed weird to imagine life without them. The snippets between the storms where we would make each other laugh, comfort each other and be each other’s shoulder to cry on, would dissolve into distant memories. He would become a stranger, a stranger that I once loved.

After my breakup, I moved cities to start a new job as a data management assistant for a holiday letting company. It was as boring as it sounds but it provided a good distraction. My head was still a mess. I thought about my ex frequently replaying our arguments over and over again. I ruminated on the “What if’s”. What if things had been different?

Despite this, it was during this time that I met him. The him that would remain with me since our first date to the present, giving me eight months of joy that I didn’t think I’d have for a very long time.

When I told my friends and family they were skeptical. I understood. How could I have possible found someone else so soon? I wasn’t ready — or so they thought.