Dating : Dating Apps are a Casual Text not Casual Sex Life

Welcome to the new age of less sex.

I’m recently single and I will tell you the dating app marketplace is worse than I ever imagined!

Young people are having less sex (The Atlantic), and I’m starting to see why.

So, let me get this straight! You want me to discover you on Tinder, add you on Instagram abut chat with you on Snapchat? Haha, no thanks.

I f-ing hate texting and I don’t buy your culture of fake connection. Poor Millenials with higher debt and scrappy Gen Z are in a sex recession. And it’s changing the future of dating, monogamy and connection forever.

Oddly there’s very little fo this reality reflected in the mainstream media (MSM). It’s as if keeping us down economically with outrageous student loan and credit card debt was not enough, now these kids choose apps and porn instead of dating, mingling and real-life human sex!

Does that even make sense to you? They don’t have time to date or the money to buy their date experiences, but they have time to spend 8 hours a day on mobile devices. Mhm.

In the space of a generation, sex has gone from something most high-school students have experienced to something most haven’t. It’s not unusual for my Gen Z friends to be virgins at 25, working on a Master’s degree and totally work orientated (I’m talking about the women).

Abstinence is cool and digital is good enough. The new mantra of behavior binges on video just not on the opposite sex. I guess our tastes in entertainment are indeed evolving!

I was playing on Tinder (because who can take swiping culture seriously) and it dawned on me I don’t get matches without going premium. That’s not just hard work, that’s a scam and a fraud. I refuse to do app gymnastics just to have access to a dating pool. I’m just not that good looking for this to be worth it.

In Japan in 2015, 43 percent of young people (ages 18 to 34) were virgins. Married people were not having much sex, either: 47 percent said it had been more than a month since they had sex.

Well, guess what, the world is indeed following Japan into an age of infertility. I wish Millennial women all the best in their careers, but I pity them in the dating world.

Many college students and 20‑somethings don’t start dating until after they’ve had sex. That is, if they even think having sex is a good idea!

In the Times’ more populous Wedding Announcements section (2018), 93 out of some 1,000 couples profiled this year met on dating apps — Tinder, Bumble, Hinge, Coffee Meets Bagel, Happn, and other specialized dating apps designed for smaller communities, like JSwipe for Jewish singles and MuzMatch for Muslims. I don’t know about you, but those aren’t amazing numbers!

I don’t just want to be a casual texter all of my life. I might actually want to have sex again, one day.

I used my fingers to swipe more than I do for solo-sex, and I don’t feel my mobile device is adequate for the depths of loneliness I may or may not feel deep inside.

Dating apps originated in the gay community; Grindr and Scruff, which helped single men link up by searching for other active users within a specific geographic radius, launched in 2009 and 2010, respectively.

Tinder is now a 7-years old brat and our lives are fucking distraught. Literally!

So flash news break, this didn’t transform the dating scene into an endless virtual marketplace where singles could shop for each other.

Sorry, I didn’t ever get to experience this (like an Amazon for human companionship), or perhaps it would turn dating into a minimal-effort, transactional pursuit of on-demand hookups (like an Uber for sex).

The dating marketplace has never been this dysfunctional, for all ages. Young people aren’t just more in debt than ever, they are getting the least pleasure out of all of us.

Digital dopamine as a gateway drug and binging Netflix isn’t a life I’d want or wish for anyone.

Before the early 1900s, when people started “dating,” they “called.” That is, men called on women, and everyone more or less agreed on the point of the visit. In dating apps, women rarely “call” on me at all! Now I’m a broke 40-year old with somewhat awkward demeanor who just got his ass kicked to the curb. But I’m not a casual texter native.

It’s hard work for me to text constantly. It’s testing my patience, and the view to chat ratio is pretty dismal. Who in their right mind would entertain such an activity?

Here is a theory of why young people are having less sex. Social media ruins their confidence and their sleep. It’s feasible right. Bodily self-consciousness, distraction, sleep deprivation, and other sources of inhibition like declining social skills could make face-to-face interactions for young people even more awkward than they are for me, who has just experienced failure in my emotional world.

Five decades ago, 72 percent of men and 87 percent of women had gotten married by the time they were 25. Now I’m 40, and to find a date I have to behave like a 25 year old. The problem is, if this is what dating means, I want no part in it.

By 2012, the situation had basically reversed: 78 percent of men and 67 percent of women were unmarried at that age. The expectations of even a digital woman now scares the living crap out of me.

I just don’t have the casual texting skills. That’s it for me I guess, time to get a cat.