Dating : How to behave when you meet your ex?

When my bestie broke up with her boyfriend a month or two ago. I listened to her and gave her a couple of advice. Then, I thought I know what I am good at relationship advice. More than that, according to my stats, my articles about dating get the most reads. So, I decided I will share with you my experience with dating! Better to say what I learned from my 700+ broken relationships.

Girls, let’s face when we break up with that bastard. One of the first thoughts that we have on the mind is:
-I can’t wait to look chic when I randomly bump into him on the street, or even better
-I can’t wait to meet him at our favorite Italian exactly when I am having my anniversary with my brand new boyfriend.

Well, face it! We all think about it! Picturing it this way or another we are all imagining how sweet will be the taste of revenge when he who did not appreciate us fully will see us happy one day.

And that… is okay!

I ‘ve been told so many times that these thoughts are toxic. People say that this sounds more like revenge than moving on and trying to be happy.This sounds like giving too much energy and attention to a guy who doesn’t deserve your time. I was told that the best tool is ignorance. Although I do agree with everything said here. Hey, I have the same thoughts, and instead of giving you some philosophical phrases, I will share with you my life experience story and tips/conclusions.

This happened to me a couple of weeks ago. I was doing my daily run in Regents Park when I randomly met the guy that I dated almost three years ago. (Yeah yeah I wrote about it in my previous story, but this time I want to concentrate on something different than what we discussed).

I remember vividly how I pictured this when we broke up. I was imagining myself wearing a pair of white high heels. Not too high as I would be walking on the street so they should be at least comfortable, wearing this low deep cut bodycon dress, definitely midi length (to not show off to much but to give a little reminder of what I looked like), red lipstick, a Prada bag in my hand with my so loved Jimmy Choo cat-eye sunglasses, and my hair ohh my hair so voluminous that it instantly added another 4 cm to my height. I would look so great that even the people passing by would feel insecure to look at me. I wanted to look so chic that he would regret that he lost me.

But if you read the previous story, that was not my case. Although I had three years to prepare for it, I was looking nothing like what I pictured. My hair was in a ponytail, I was wearing black leggings, and a sports top. Red lipstick? omg, who wear that when jogging? (I mean I know girls in Russia and Moldova dress up and wear lots of makeup when going to throw the trash, but thanks God I am not one of them). The only thing that I had from that white Eva Longoria look was my cat-eye sunglasses.

But I made an impression. I did not talk much but as I promised him I unblocked him from my Insta, and he slided into my DMs like Joey from Friends was stepping into bed with every hottie who was drinking her coffee at the Central Perk Cafe. Exactly! Quickly and wordless.

I am not going to go into details about how he got back into his favorite place on my Instagram-my Blacklist, but I knew I made an impression and here are some tips on how to make an impression on your ex, even though you are not Eva Longoria or even dressed up as her.

1. Smile and be happy! I know you heard it a million times. I know everyone keeps telling you that you should smile more. But honestly, there is a reason why everyone is repeating you this: because it is true. Google it! You will find hundreds of articles about that. In case you don’t have enough time to read it, I will sum it up. Smiling means happiness. People are selfish. They think that being near a happy person will make them happy. So, yeah, no sad face and grumpiness. From now one Good Vibes Only.
2. Be mysterious! Do not tell him too much. Trust me: he doesn’t want to know the whole story about how your friends are getting married. Nor, how successful your brother is running his business, who by the way he hates. Just give out some information without many details. This should be like that midi white dress: one cut is enough to show a little bit of your body so, no need to show off your legs. It is like the description on the back of your favorite book. It gives you some details just enough to make you want to read the book.
   For example:
   -How is work?
   -Work is great actually I changed jobs and I am currently working on a great project.
   -What is it? Where do you work now?
   -I am Social Media Manager for Hertz, can’t tell you yet, but check my Linkedin next week. Also, the best tip here that worked magically for me is run away in the middle of the conversation. I did this because I was bored of him and wasn’t interested in entertaining him, so I waited for him to finish the phrase apologized and said that I actually need to go without giving extra details and trust me that is exactly what made him want to read the book.
3. Always, always wear your favorite pair of sunglasses. No, but seriously, this is somehow related to the second tip of being mysterious this book proves that people wearing sunglasses are hotter.

Well, that is all from my side. If you have any questions, need someone to talk to, maybe wanna know my opinion, leave the comment here. Be happy ladies, and enjoy life.