Dating : How To Do Love? — a short read

Crushes are beautiful intense emotions that can transform into something even more beautiful: Love. They are completely involuntary based on emotional connection and physical attraction (passions, differences, accents, dive, looks, smells, etc.).

Those early intense excitements and feelings take time to mature in the process of really getting to know someone. People that tend to rush into relationships because of early excitement often end up in something that feels irrational or toxic if the crush fades away.

This doesn’t suggest suppressing initial excitement, but rather letting the next steps happen than trying to rush them. A good process for healthy loving and lasting relationship involves time. Love needs to feel like a good choice even when the initial burst of emotions becomes more stable.

Elements of attraction and deep connection need to be complimented by rationality to prevent doubtful relationships. Rationality could be defined by feeling that on top of connection and attraction there is a sense of feeling mutual care and ability to satisfy each others needs on the long run. This is often based on our believe system, values, experiences and live goals.

If you only focus on rational part, you risk the situation of being stuck with someone who’s really good for you, but just boring. If you focus only on intense feelings, you end up with someone that exciting but could eventually feel toxic.

So how to really do love?

Having a crush on someone is pretty good start. It seems smart to let the crush happen without force, while being curious about how it evolves over time. Having respect towards potential differences, creates a space of trust where people can stay true to themselves, be honest and find true love.

A short inspirational read. Spoken out loud by anonymous; written by anonymous