Dating : I appear to be productive because I usually write a blog post every single day,

h2>Dating : I appear to be productive because I usually write a blog post every single day,

First of all, I think I’m decent at writing. Keep a high bar for yourself and don’t fall for flattery. But the answer is simple. I practiced every day for five years and while I practiced I didn’t get distracted. And I grew more confident over time.

And these micro-skills are just the side-kick to the true skill — deep focused creative work. If you can just focus and concentrate for an hour a day for a sustained period of time, over, and over, and over, and over again, you can build a new life from scratch.

Take writing for example. I’ve been writing for five years now. To this day, I’ve done nothing cute. I built the foundation to help me become a better writer and replace my full-time job by focusing on getting a little percent better at writing each day with focused time-blocks to accomplish the work.

“What are you guys talking about?” they ask, unwilling to accept any “oh it’s just boring grownup talk” answers. My kids sit on the bed and stare at us, interested in hearing the rest of our emotional conversation.

I’ve since dropped the subject of dating, however, he brings it up. He views it as a distraction and that I won’t focus on the kids if I’m out dating. Aside from that I’m not a boy-crazy teenager, he doesn’t realize how distracting it was to be miserable in marriage and secretly cry over it daily for years.

So now we have to work extra hard to keep our shit together when the kids are awake. I didn’t realize how difficult it would be hiding the breakup before we’ve formalized a new living arrangement.

I didn’t tell my husband our relationship was over while walking out the door on a first date. Naively, I thought maybe it would take the duration of this pandemic before he’d be okay with us dating. So like…spring 2021.

The secret to self-improvement is simple — take all the useful concepts that have become cliches, take them seriously, and implement them. Your inability to execute is the only thing in your way.My son immediately thinks all arguments lead to parents breaking up, which is an indicator of how infrequently we’ve ever fought in front of him. Fighting isn’t the norm in our house.My kids aren’t toddlers and don’t need constant attention every hour. I’ve realized that he isn’t accepting of letting them learn independence. A 10-year-old doesn’t need their father to be their playmate for hours every single day. They don’t need me to hover and constantly be all up in their nuts.

Say you want to be a writer or do any of the other career paths in this whole internet milieu. You have to learn tech. In 2020, it’s pretty much inexcusable to not know basic HTML, no code tech, and be able to know your way around a computer. And learning this stuff isn’t hard, but it’s tedious, frustrating, banal. You have to focus intently and do all the little micro-steps required.

Build positive feedback loops built on the foundation of deep work, create momentum, wait long enough, and you’ll get what you want. The good news? You don’t have to slave away for endless hours to accomplish this at all.

A few days ago, my husband had a great 1:1 session with our divorce counselor. The incessant crying has dropped significantly (knock on wood). And yet, I can’t stand to be around him.

He’s struggling with the idea of us being amicable after a breakup. At one point he announced that he absolutely will not be pleasant with me after we split up. I told him that he can be as shitty as he wants to me behind closed doors. However, when the kids are around, he can suck it up for their sake and behave like a fucking adult and show respect for me the way I will with him. I said, “You want to be an asshole to me in front of them? Do you know how many years of therapy they’ll need as adults?”

I knew asking my husband for a ‘Parenting Marriage’ was a stretch. We adore our children and given their special needs, I assumed my husband would bend over backward with me to make this as painless as possible for them. That means demonstrating a united front on remaining civil and respectful with each other.

Life is a game of feedback loops. Nobody is born confident. Naturally confident people benefit from positive feedback loops early in life. Usually, because they’re good looking, intelligent, or skilled at something like athletics.

When things get bad, my son (who is autistic and highly sensitive to change) breaks down and cries. He doesn’t want us to divorce, despite that we don’t even use the D-word in our talks.

I remember the first time I put together a WordPress theme. It took forever. I had to learn bit by bit, instructional video after instructional video, without breaking concentration. It’s hurdles like these that tend to break people — setting up the landing pages, getting the software to work, trying to fit the pieces together like a puzzle.

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How do you know if he sees a future with you?

How do you tell if your ex secretly wants you back?

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