Dating : I Surprised My Lover With Rimming

My first time rimming someone was spectacular

I’m a pleaser in bed: seeing my lover contorting in pleasure is one of the best stimuli I have, so I always aim to give him the type of pleasure he loves the most. Perhaps this is one of the reasons I never thought twice about giving Mr P. anilingus (commonly known as rimming.) Before him, I’ve never done it to anyone; he was the first man I ever did anal play with. I won’t waste my time in overthinking why I never explored this type of pleasure before. But really, why not!?

When we started having sex, I knew Mr P. was into anal play. Once we were talking about sex toys, and he told me he had a big collection. After we had sex for the first time, I asked him to show it to me, which he did. I was fascinated; I never knew sex could be so diversified!

Mr P. started by showing me the magic wand, cock rings, feathers, nipple clamps and pinwheels. Seeing my reaction — curiosity and amusement— he began to escalate; he brought out his collection of impact play toys: floggers, paddlers and whips.

At each toy he showed me, he tried it on me, soft, merely as a taster. I kept asking to see more; I was loving it! He then showed me his electrical stimulation device (I wrote about my amazing experience with electrosex, here.)

Finally, Mr P. showed me his anal sex-toys collection: several butt plugs and anal beads, a P-spot vibrator, dildos and a strap-on harness kit. I still remember his face looking at me while showing me this part of his collection as if assessing my reaction of him being into anal play (not very men are so open about it.) I was still curious and amazed. I want to try it all— if I don’t enjoy it, fine, but at least I had a go with it. So far, I haven’t dislike anything.

Since the day when Mr P. introduced me to his oh-so-delicious sex-toys collection, we’ve been trying them. I have some favourites, like my beloved red flogger, the e-stim device and wax play, but in general, I love them all, some more as a giver than a receiver (like the pinwheel or the paddles.)

After acknowledging my lover is into anal play, I went to read about it. I could have asked him how to do it and how he prefers it, but I love to surprise, so I wanted to give him a spectacular anal playtime without him knowing it was coming.

Before my research, I already knew the anus doesn’t lubricate itself, so extra lubrification was a must (I only used my saliva, but I will try it with a flavoured lub.) I also knew that it’s a sensitive area, it has many nerve endings, either in the outside as in the inside, so my research need was exclusively about pleasurable techniques — what to do to give perfect rimming.

Of course, sex is subjective, and a unique experience: what gives me pleasure might not do anything for you. Even so, I wanted to feel confident that I had an idea of what I was doing.

I knew rimming wouldn’t be complicated, as in everything in sex — I just had to interpret my lover’s body language and go with the flow. Even so, I wanted to know a few extra techniques, which I learned, thanks to my research (thank you, sex writers!)

An essential issue with anal play, especially involving anilingus, is hygiene. For me, this wasn’t a concern: I know Mr P.’s (good) hygiene habits. When I’m coming over, he always has a shower before, so I knew he was going to be freshly clean for me. But if you’re not sure about your lover’s hygiene, suggest him/her have a shower beforehand.

I love surprises (to give and to receive), so I was super excited about knowing what Mr P. was getting. We love to try new things, most of them are a first to me, so it makes it all even more exciting. But now, only me knew something new and exciting was about to happen; I was thrilled.

I’ve read that one of the best positions for receiving rimming is to be on your fours, so, when we were both I extremely aroused from our making out, I told Mr P. to get on his fours, head on the pillow. I had the pinwheel in hand, so I had some sensorial play before I came close to his anal area. I really wanted to get Mr P. by surprise.

I ran the pinwheel over his spine, down to his buttocks and thighs. I slightly bit him, never stopping the prickling stimulation. Then I dropped the pinwheel and grabbed his balls with one hand, playing with them. Then I grabbed his cock and started to give him a blowjob with one hand, while the other was grabbing his ass. I slowly moved my both hands to his butt cheeks, I opened them up and, with desire, I licked Mr P.’s anal area: with a relaxed, wet tongue, I licked him, from his perineum to his anus.

Mr P.’s response was magnificent. He was definitely caught by surprise, and the pleasure he felt was announced in a loud, deep moan. I was proud of myself.

From there, I kept licking Mr P.’s anal area, alternating between soft licks and a hardened tongue, pushing it inside and around the anus. I used different pressures and movements; it was ecstatic for him.

I didn’t think about if I was doing it right or wrong: I didn’t think at all, I merely follow my instincts and learn what my lover likes more by paying attention to his reactions, to how his body moved and when he became more vocal. I gave my lover spectacular anilingus. He loved it, and I loved doing it.

Doing something special for your lover is a marvellous sensation, but doing something that also gives you pleasure is an extraordinary connection. I had the first experience with rimming someone, and I loved it, it will definitely be part of our (diversified) sexual life.