h2>Dating : Kissing Frogs But Praying For A Prince
Cheers to every woman’s optimistic dream of life, love, and the pursuit of happiness! Have you ever found yourself thinking as soon as I get this dream job, I will be happy? As soon as I get married, have kids, buy a house, pay off student loans, I will be happy? What if I told you this version of happily ever after doesn’t exist? Well, at least not in the sense that most people think it does.
This fairytale is something that I’ve had to come to grips with over the years. One night I had a dream, it was almost midnight on a Thursday, and I was rushing home because I had to work the next day. I just left my girls at a Lounge celebrating a birthday. As I’m sashaying down 14th & U street looking for my car, my heel gets caught between two brick pavements. As I begin to stumble and fall, this tall chocolate specimen of a man catches me in his arms, picks up my shoe, and gracefully walks me to my car. In the dream, I thought to myself, “why should I entertain this guy…why is he galavanting the streets of DC on a work night…he’s probably married with kids”. I remember thinking, “he can’t be Mr. Right, because Mr. Right is home right now preparing for work tomorrow.” So I graciously thanked him, got in my car, and drove away. And yes, as you may have guessed, I forgot my shoe!
In the dream, I woke up the next morning to a trending post titled, “A Modern Day Prince Charming is looking for his Cinderella.” When I actually woke up, I have to admit I had a melancholy mood for most of the day. Who could blame me? I’ve been waiting for Mr. Right since I was a little girl playing with my Barbie and Ken dolls. Waiting, praying, crying, frustrated, and angry. I’m sure many of you have felt these emotions given the woes of dating nowadays. And even though I’ve dabbled around with versions of “in love” over the years, it’s never quite felt like the real thing.
If you’ve ever found yourself pleading to God for your special someone, you’re not alone. The consistency of marriage is appetizing. Friday night dates, Saturday evening adventures, Sunday morning worship, not to mention having someone to come home to after a long day at work, someone who can pay half the bills, and let’s not forget guilt-free sex.
As a Christian-based counselor and Life Coach for over 20 years, I have spoken to many women who struggle with the same defeating thoughts. God, I know you are all-powerful. You are a thirst-quenching, ever-loving God, but why haven’t you supplied me with this one basic need? God, where is my happily ever after? It’s not only hard to wait well, but it’s also gut-wrenching and agonizing at times. I’ve concurred with those same thoughts and feelings, and I found myself doing what most women do, whether consciously or subconsciously. I’ve spent years taking matters into my own hands while I was waiting for God to move. I’ve dated the wrong guys, and I’ve kissed my share of frogs, all while fervently praying for my Prince.
This is the introduction to my latest book that will be released soon. Let me know how you like it. In this book, I will teach you how I overcame this season in my life, and I will challenge you to take your faith to the next level. You will discover new ways of living life, experiencing love, and understanding God. Once you open your eyes, you will recognize Mr. Wrong in a matter of hours. Instead of kissing frogs during your season of singleness, I will teach you how to spend this time getting to know yourself and the calling God has on your life so that when your Prince comes, you will be prepared to receive him. If you’re open and ready to step into new territory, stay tuned. Ahead is a road that leads you to joy, self-love, and inner peace.
Shavon Warrick, MSW, PsyD (Candidate)
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