Dating : Lesson 2, The “Nice Guy” Syndrome & “Fake” High-Value Males

INTRODUCTION TO LESSON 2

In this lesson we will be going over the “Nice Guy” syndrome. One that is very present in the modern dating world. We will address the key elements to this and give specific examples of how it plays out. When pursuing, the worst way to approach a conversation is by stating “I’m a nice guy, I’m one of the nicest guys you’ll ever meet”. This phrase alone will shut down the understanding of the intentions you have. There are several parts that make up this so called “nice guy”, part two of this lesson will be about “Fake” high-value males and the real ones that exist. That will be more of a shorter brief section on the comparison of both a true “high value” male and the more phony “putting on an act” high value male. Mainly in this lesson will be the main points on the “Nice Guy” syndrome and the types of characteristics that are seen.

This type of guy is the one who thinks that if they are “kind” they will have a problem free life. What are the building blocks of a nice guy that tend to make them fall short? Let me explain in this easier terms. Women want a finished product, not a science project. Being a “nice guy” will be the sign that something is too “perfect” and will make them lose interest fast.

Nice guys will avoid any sort of argument in a relationship. They tend to keep their vision polished and well kept. If a guy is considered a “nice guy” and his girlfriend upsets him, he will just agree with her and allow himself to be lower than her on the scale of respect. Nice guys are oblivious to things going wrong, they believe in a problem-free world and assume they have the answers to anything and everything. An important one is that nice guys tend to feel more comfortable relating to women than to men. Many nice guys see the approval of women and pursue their own mind that they are not like “other men”. These nice guys won’t speak up in a relationship and they will have trouble making their needs heard, allowing their partner or female they are pursuing to not be aware of what they actually need. Nice guys will also make their partner their emotional center, relying on them for support when they need to figure it out themselves. At all costs do not be a nice guy, and for women, avoid them at all times.

These type of guys are conditioned to believe that they will be loved, get their needs met and have a smooth life without any issues. Being a nice guy from the own self perspective is the weakest rule in the knowledge of modern dating. Taking the best friend and “buddy buddy” trail is smart for some men who can play the part right. When you’re a woman’s friend she won’t expect much out of you on terms of hanging out or intimacy. Some of the guys who are actually full of the “Nice Guy” syndrome, tend to get used in the process. Women will know they can get a free meal from this so called nice guy, since confrontation isn’t his strong suit.

These types of males are often bad at conversation and many women who have dated one will say “he seemed like such a nice guy”. When a conflict occurs he will fold only because he is too worried about how to defend or fix the problem at hand.

Remember this, women break rules for alpha men. Women make rules for beta men. It’s that basic.

It’s simply a mirror effect on their bad nature. The good man simply shows her how empty she is and she doesn’t want to have to rise to his standards. While the “toxic jerk” is the one she’s losing sleep over. Women don’t like guys that have morals, peace, & tranquility. They thrive off chaos and drama and they look for that when it comes to dating the men that are far from “Mr. Nice Guy”. These type of women are broken beyond repair so to speak. Nice guys will always finish last, women tend to take kindness for weakness. Another key point is to never let your emotional stability depend on her emotional instability.

Women don’t want good men because they don’t want to clean up their own act and ways. A lot of women are just naturally unstable and attracted to the chase and issues like I said above. A woman will cause the “nice guy” constant dysfunctions in a good relationship all because she’s bored.

The “Nice Guy” deception is a type of romantic idealism. Kind of like ‘Rainy Day Friends’ that are only there to be used when everyone else is busy. Like I said before, nice guys don’t finish last, because in reality, they were never in the race to begin with. Remember to never offer advice and comfort to a woman who is having problems with her boyfriend or husband. You will be her beta orbiter every time she complains soaking up all of her nonsense 99% of the time. This is a huge trait of a “nice guy” and will end up in the friend-zone or will most likely get ignored.

A quote in the dating coach community is “If you treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan”.

Closing out this part, Nice guys never understand what their priorities are. They are too focused on not being on their purpose, and two getting rejected. If you give a woman an inch, she’ll run a mile and reject you. That is the harsh truth.

One big thing when noticing the difference between the two types of high-value males is this: A high value male has limited time.
A fake high value man is a man who thinks he is busy and plays it off like his time is valuable. You can fake being busy but a guy can’t fake being on his path to success, you need to reevaluate it. A fake high value male will see a text pop up from a woman, look at it and then watch tv all day and act like he’s “busy”. Being off your phone and getting all the basic daily routine stuff done and then looking at your phone is the correct manner to handle it.

High-Value men have options, they don’t let anything on the topic of females disrupt their purpose. Remaining calm and holding composure and not being emotionally invested with a girl who didn’t even split the tab with you is the right thing to do.

High value men know when to walk away, when you keep watering a dead plant it won’t grow. Never buy a woman’s time, don’t pursue her to offer something like a fancy dinner only to get her to hangout with you. High value men control themselves and do not allow people to manipulate himself into situations. The untold truth is this, any man of high-value would never claim a woman being “the one”. That is a delusion outlook on focusing on one woman, the “oneitis” I mentioned in lesson 1. Remember guys, your attention is currency. Spend it wisely.

From experience, a real high valued man knows his flaws, he knows how to handle them and finds the solution. A key point is to remain humble at all times and do not allow a woman to influence the principles. Keep yourself unavailable and in the drivers seat. When you’re always around and at her beck and call, she’ll get bored with you very fast. Traits of a “fake” high value” male.

Lastly, when you become a high value man, your time becomes highly valuable. Making that known to the women you pursue is not only honest, but it makes them aware you have other women.

CLOSING LESSON 2

What to take away from this lesson? The key points are changing the “Nice guy” approach to something more purpose oriented. Nice guys will do everything to win a girl over by convincing them they are “the diamond in the rough”. Nice guys have no personal control of their power, and tend build walls, turn the tables and form into a blue pilled man. These men don’t get self-approval, they seek it through superficial ideologies. Remember, single women have options, and so do you.

No woman is going make you truly happy, you don’t want your happiness to be depending on the things you can’t control. That’s how you get trapped in the “Fake” high value male lifestyle. Listening to sad music and letting your emotions get the best of you, all because of a break up or getting bailed on at a date. Always stay on your purpose. Once you start to apologize for something women know you didn’t do, they think it’s leverage and then they will have some insane expectations.

Society: Treat a woman like a queen and she’ll treat you like a king.

Reality: Treat a woman like a queen and she’ll treat you like her servant.

On 3/7/21 These Will Be Posted.

Lesson 3, Flakey Females & Over Pursuing

Lesson 4, When You Stop Caring, They Start Chasing

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