Dating : My 10 (Favorite) Reasons to Have Sex

I watched How I Met Your Mother recently.

In the episode, Lily makes a case for all the reasons to have sex with someone.

And it got me thinking… what are my favorite reasons?

Here’s what I came up with.

We should talk about how ridiculously beautiful it is it have sex while it’s raining outside. The rain creates this natural white noise and rhythm that is basically designed for sexy time.

I personally love to turn all the lights off in the house and open the curtains. When lightning strikes and you can catch a glimpse of your man’s body in the moonlight…

Okay, I’m getting hot and bothered, now.

There’s something about hotel sheets that I just can’t ignore. And the fact that I’m not the one who has to wash them.

Once, at the start of our relationship, my boyfriend crashed my beach vacation. He had been working out of state, and he was able to get away to meet me.

In the middle of the night, I had a knock on the door.

He wasn’t even in the room before we stripped each other down. (And we fucked until the sun came up.)

I’ll be real with you: I don’t get enough of this.

This is mainly because Boyfriend and I don’t fight enough! (Although, maybe we should start. Please recommend fights I can pick in the comments.)

But, God, is there anything better than coming together after a big blowout?

All the uncertainty and heightened emotions that come with fighting funnel into a passionate sex session.

I don’t know about you, but for me, make-up sex usually happens on the floor or on the couch.

We just gotta have each other right then and there. 😉

One of the sexiest times is when you’re getting ready to go to a party or go out.

You’re both taking steps to look your best. There are cologne and perfume involved.

And, let’s be honest, I’m going to be late.

So why not just be super late?

In my list of top sexy times with Boyfriend was a because-we’re-late-anyway moment.

We had a birthday party to attend. And it was one of those large, basically small wedding type of birthday parties.

I couldn’t figure out what to wear and I was walking around in my bra and underwear. And that was all it took.

Walking into the party with that post-sex glow made me feel like I had a sexy secret.

Ladies, do you feel me? Can I get an amen here?

Shaving your legs is hard work. I get that the gentlemen have to shave their faces every day, but that’s nothing compared to shaving your legs.

So, when we shave our legs, we are ready to go.

Just the other day, I told Boyfriend, “Um, you know I shaved my legs, right?”

And that was basically code for, “Please, have sex with me so I can put these smooth babies to work.”

If your lady shaves her legs, and she’s making it clear that it’s go time, get ready for a good time.

I love football. College football. NFL football. The local high school team.

Obviously, I won’t tell you who my teams are to stay anonymous and all that, but I will say that when they win, that’s the perfect window into sexy time.

There are few times in life when you’ll be as hyped up as when your team wins a championship. And if they win the Superbowl? Forget it.

All that adrenaline funneled into sex is magical.

If you’re not into football, I recommend it. If only for the post-game celebration.

I’m a morning person, so when Boyfriend is spooning me and I wake up to his hard dick, it’s better than coffee.

(I’m sorry, coffee. I still love you. But I’ve yet to orgasm from you.)

I love morning sex. I love waking up and mounting him. It’s that no-talking kind of sex that really starts my morning off right.

Morning sex is not for everyone. (Read Meaghan Ward’s piece for more on this.)

For me, though, it’s kind of perfect.

Here’s the thing: I love my birthday. Not everyone does. I see it in the optimistic, I-Made-It way. Others see it as the one-year-closer-to-death way.

I love the energy of a birthday. Everyone is happy to see you. Everyone talks to you. It’s just a good day. (Plus, presents.)

On my last birthday, I had morning birthday sex, combining two of my favorite things. (Double whammy!)

Birthday sex can be a negative event. (I recommend reading “Birthday Sex Isn’t Special” by Riley Black for more on this.)

Don’t use “it’s my birthday” as an excuse. But if you both agree to celebrate with sex, then it can be amazing.

When someone is really attracted to you, it’s a huge turn-on. I love the times when he can’t keep his hands off of me.

If he’s sexting me or eyeing me or kissing on me, most of the time, I’m going to feel a little heat, too.

I want to be wanted. (And, if you’ve read my other posts, you would know that I typically want sex more than he does.)

So, when he’s just lit up with desire, I may sprint toward the bedroom.

And I’ll be ready with my legs spread open.

I love having sex with someone I love.

Casual sex may be empowering, but when I sleep with someone I love, there’s a level of intimacy that is unmatched.

I love my boyfriend. I love having sex with him. It’s electric and (honestly) the best sex of my life.

There are times when I’m just so overcome with love for my person that I just need to show him, and sex is one of the best ways.

There’s nothing better for me than having sex with him because I feel all the swoony, starry-eyed love feelings for him.

So, there you have it. My favorite reasons to have sex.

But now I’m curious about what your favorite reasons are.

Meet me in the comments and let me know what gets you super hot and diving headfirst into your sheets.

Here’s to our best sex lives, friends!