Dating : “Rejection makes a man stronger & do better in life"

Hi guys,i am an engineering grad from bengaluru.I’ll be sharing my experience about *rejection*in what ever i might have done or tried in the past,be it getting rejected from an interview,relationship.It all boils down to the same word which conveys the same meaning in different aspects of our lives.I’am not writing this Blog to explain the meaning of rejection,but how to deal with it??.I just wanna share my experience on rejection and how it became part of my life and how it turned me into a person that i am today.

So like every youngster,i too was fascinated about getting into premier institutes like IIT’s,IIIT’s etc. There was no peer pressure,but definitely love pressure,as in trying to strike a balance between both is indeed cumbersome,especially during 10th grade when you fall prey to infatuations which gives a wrong idea about love and gives you the false feeling like your a grown up adult ,your matured enough to deal with love & board exams (yikes!!!), which is so not true!!,you’d actually be wasting your time & falling into a illusionary trap,instead of doing something productive .So since 11th grad i prepared so hard for this exam called JEE(joint entrance exam) ,an exam that would make your career future proof and turn you into another Rajat Singaniya(amirs role)and get a girl of your dreams from a hindi movie called ghajini,turn’s out you end up being a ghajini ,not another Rajat Singaniya :D.So I got myself enrolled in a coaching institute like any other nerd would do.In the end i just some how cleared the entrance exam.Not gonna say i passed with flying colors , but it was satisfactory.People were like oh! you cracked JEE!! wah wah!! .Doesn’t matter whether i cracked JEE or not.But it definitely cracked my head up!! .I wasn’t able to get an institute of my choice.At the same time i had to face Breakup in my relationship due to various personal reasons that eventually took a huge toll on me .I couldn’t take the rejection.That was the first time i endured mental trauma due to rejection.I felt like i was useless ,i couldn’t socialize or make friends nor could i fix up my broken relationship.Lot of mixed feeling & complex emotions i had to go through at a very young age.Eventually felt like giving up and became obese 😛

Luckily change struck like lightening in my life.I did get help thanks to my parents who were so supportive and understanding in whatever i did.

Due to prolonged rejection in life.It took me 4 years to get rid of it.Say by the time i completed my under-graduation.Looking back ,all this could have been evaded ,if i had only learned to accept rejection as part of my life.We don’t get to choose the life we want.Rejection & selection are part of life. In fact rejections aren’t so bad ,if you learn to accept it as you rise higher.They actually help you do better in life.

Rejections help correct your mistakes and help you succeed for the betterment of your life.You may think oh that person is doing better,he is able to manage both relationship and career,why can’t i? .Yes it may or may not be possible,everyone’s not that person whom you may be referring to .Depends on what life has in store for us.Rejections played a great role in my life.I’am sure it will in your lives too.Rejection helped me cultivate a never giving up attitude and approach in my life.In fact it became my motto :-Never give up, no matter what the odds may be.It enabled me to get to the first step towards success by completing my under-graduation and helped me earn a Google india scholarship for Android Basics Nanodegree.It also helped me to shape up in my personality development like i was able to get back to the skinny me & able to socialize quite often.It shone lot of light in my life and helped me to think in a broader perspective ,rather than cribbing over a petty rejection that lasts for few hours,days or years,depends on how you take it.

Rejections are just part of life,be it getting rejected in a interview,exam or even in life.Don’t let rejections define what you are,just follow your passion .In the process you might get hindered by rejection.Don’t let it gobble you up,its a temporary phase that subsides over time,but rejections definitely will help you rise to new heights.I continue to face rejections every now &then.But now that i comprehend its vitality ,its easier to put up with it.Recall Jiraya sensei’s words to Tsunade from a japanese anime called Naurto Shippuden,just before he bids farewell to tsunade to find out who is the sage of the six paths, he says Rejection makes a man stronger.!! which is so true.At least it worked out in my life :)who knows it may work out for you!