Dating : Relationships, heartbreaks and moving on

In relationships, one area that has been grossly neglected is how to handle breakups and the fallout. We tend to always believe we will be successful in every relationship, despite the evidence saying otherwise. And so, “how to end it when the time comes” rarely gets discussed.

First, you need to realize that no relationship break-up is ever a spur-of-the-moment thing. Whoever is initiating the breakup has considered the decision for days, weeks, and probably months. Said person is not going to change their mind based on your questions, tears or begging. So don’t do any of that. It’s over and that’s that. The best thing you can do is to retain some dignity for yourself.

Look them in the eye, be grateful for the sincerity and thank them. Again, I reiterate — Resist the urge to beg them to take you back. If you have to beg someone to not break up with you, that relationship is already on its last legs and won’t last. Remember what I said earlier? Breakups are not spurred of the moment decisions. They have been considered, weighed, analyzed, they’ve probably even talked to one or two confidants and the matter has been concluded. Your begging is not pretty. I’m sorry if I sound harsh but sometimes we need to tell ourselves the hard truths.

He has moved on, so should you. You will be fine, trust me!