Dating : Releasing your inner self into the world

Is your own perception you?

Like the turning of a tide your perception has its own physical force driving it daily. Our own world is created inside of us as a means to navigate through the physical world. It’s a perception we have created to help us survive. Only it’s not always as real as it seems.

The self is the gateway between the most powerful object in the universe, your mind and our own small realms of consciousness that we bring into the physical. Think the wardrobe to Narnia, there’s things on the other side you can’t describe. Unless you have been there. It’s changing our own deepest perception that makes us who we are.

“The true voyage is not to travel through a hundred different lands with the same pair of eyes, but to see the same land through a hundred different pairs of eyes” — Marcel Proust

If we start with someone who knows their self, who has a high level of self awareness and emotional intelligence. They make good decision for themselves and those around them. This has nothing to do with their job or how much money they have it’s their own identity expanding into the world through who they are. If we measure this person to the degree to which their own inner self is connected to the physical realm they bring into the world this person will say be 80% of their true inner self being broadcast to the world. This person will be able to improve their own life across the board as they know who they are and how they operate. ‘If I do this, that will happen’ ‘If I’m feeling like this it’s because of this’ so on and so forth. They are able to self manage and self maintain very well.

What of the other end. You’ve copied behaviours of those around you, you’ve made things up as you went along. You weren’t loved and had no idea of being your own self. Your own person was blocked off from the real world before you had the chance to be you. You had to be the false self before you even knew what was true. You had to exist with the expectations of you that don’t match who you truly are. You had to perform you. As a ratio let’s say you’re operating at >20% of your inner connected self to the physical being of you. Only a few of your thoughts, actions and feelings each day or week are the real you. There’s parts of your self that belong to other people or are ideas you’ve generated to navigate through the world. You’re spending up to 90% of the day not as you. Your work, your interactions, the life your living isn’t actually you. It means your mind, body and soul are out of line with one another so when it comes to interacting with the world it can all come out as a bit of a mess or not how you deeply wanted it to. Aggressive behaviour, anger, confusion, repeated mistakes. Is that who you really are or is this your own method of being you you made up or learnt along the way.

To let go is to be free

If each interaction you have with another person is an emotion. An emotion that you give off and an emotion you feel. It’s you own feelings that essentially guide how you interact and navigate through the world. But if you’re not you then where in this world have you emotionally navigated to. How has your own perception guided you through this world so far? You can occupy the same physical space but not occupy ‘the same space’ How should you be navigating through the world. How do you be you? To touch base there are many ways to form relationships. People you know, people like you, professional friends those you respect but don’t like, people form work. Your own perception is essentially your own world around you. You have created a realm in which you survive. It’s a safety net of being you.

The inner self

If your inner self isn’t revealed to the world and inline with your own present being the relationships and interactions you form aren’t you. Your own present self is blocking any true potential greatness because your mind body and soul can’t comprehend that there could be any more or anything different. This is the difference between knowing yourself as a part of your character, to aid in say career a choice. And truly deeply finding yourself so that who you are can quite comfortably expand itself into the world. You are essentially being you but for other people. People are drawn to you because you have nothing to take in just being you. There is no risk as you only give.

Self discovery can be the longest journey you’ll ever go on, if you ever realise you’re ever on it. If you know someone who has been through the process of finding their inner self the process can be more straight forward. The individual can help you navigate to your true self. Seeing what’s behind your own layer of perception that is actually layered in front of you can be a monumental task. How do you tear down what you see from the source of your sight?

Did you ever have a moment where something was different? Where you had a sense of perception outside if yourself. It’s not deja-vu. It’s not a coincidence. But something else was there. Is that your inner self? Is that the real you? It could be?

If you’re truly trying to make a change it important to really recognise how much we as any one human don’t actually know. The facts are:

• There are things in this world that you cannot see with your eyes or simply explain with your words (a sense of perception outside of yourself). The theory is there but realising other who are lost, the theory is no good.
• As humans we have words to explain what we mean and numbers to measure. How many times have you written an email or letter only to rewrite it, the words we have are not always what we mean. They are our ability to communicate, but it’s not always exactly what we mean. There is always more out there.

Your own inner self is correlated to your own inner child. Navigating back, at some point you were pure potential. There was the opportunity for you to become all you could be and to truly be who you were supposed to be in this world. Navigating back to the inner child inside takes you towards the infinite. Ask yourself if life was to have fallen completely in my favour through childhood would I be doing exactly what I am doing right now. If things has gone petty perfect for me what would be different? While we can’t relive the years gone by we can become the person we were supposed to be. Think the the butterfly effect theory and how those small interactions in childhood can shape our entire life.

Your true self

Navigating back to your true inner self means every interaction you had since that pivotal moment would have been different. Your own self has blocked it out or created a different experience for your own version of you because that’s who you became, only that version is not real. It’s disrupting your inner self that is. Going from to 10% to 20% of your inner self being correlated with your own physical is a question of time and effort spent working on your true inner self. It’s being patient and listening to what’s inside. And dealing with any turbulent emotions that come your way. Your inner self can be buried under a lot of pain. The pain of not being loved, rejected, deeply feeling like you’re not good enough. Working though the emotions is a gateway to the real you. Like needing the dough to make bread you have to work through the emotions that are there. It’s those emotions that are stopping you from receiving the emotional connection you truly want. Love, acceptance — take you pick. But what of a leap into your own true perceptual realm, a sudden jump into you? Releasing buried trauma is no fun. It can be brutal and happen sometimes only by chance. Recognising you’ve been buried inside yourself for years is truly transformative in not only who you are but the power of your self and how the world around you is only your manufactured perception. How your self can be block and buried from the outside world for years. Even generations.

All of a sudden the world in front of you now is not the world that was in front of you before. It’s a level of comprehension that there’s no medical term for. Not physically being able to be you for so many years and being thrown back into yourself sounds like a movie. Whilst you can’t script the outcome I can tell you own self being buried inside of you will force words out of your mouth and behaviours through your body like you are part of a play.

The inner self is not your intellect or how smart you are it’s the ability to stretch and grow your self into the world through the physical. The way you interact, speak, think, relate to others. The path you take. If you’re not you then where have you been?

To think in 2020 there is nothing left in the world and we’ve conquered everything is to not understand perception and of the power of the self.

How do you know of your not you?

Where is the tipping point between lost and found, between I’m happy where I am in my life and something just isn’t quite right.

Can you say to yourself:

• Something just doesn’t feel right, surely I can’t exist in this space forever.
• Surely this isn’t it
• I love what I have but I don’t love who I am
• Why can’t I be free
• When does my life start
• When can I just be me
• I would appear to have it all, but all isn’t what I want
• Why can’t I just be calm
• Does everyone else fake it like I do
• How are my emotions different to yours

From experience I can tell you the person you’ve always wanted to be, the person thats your inner self can be a herculean task to reveal.

I wrote in a previous article about finding work you love that ‘the life you love is staring you right in the face’. This is the power of the self. When you truly revel to yourself the person you truly are, the life you love will be staring right back at you in every person you meet, every conversation you have. The love you seek is actually the real you. It’s the emotional acceptance in the physical thats the challenge. The emotional answers are inside but the journey begins outside.

If depression is living in the past and anxiety is living in the future. It’s a realm of understanding that you have with your own most complex object in the universe that we call the self.

It’s you, but your own interpretation of it.

All of the answers are underneath you.