Dating : So You Want to Get Laid? Here’s How.

It should come as no surprise, sex feels good. No matter your gender, getting laid is likely one of the top five things on your to-do list. But, if you’re not partnered, it’s not always as simple as thinking, damn, I’d love to have sex right now and making it happen. However, it doesn’t have to be difficult. Finding a partner who is interested in the same things you are may not happen overnight, but if you’re serious about getting laid, I’ve got some pointers for you.

1. Ask-

I know, simple, right? It really can be. If you’re interested in someone and it seems they’re interested too, getting right to the point may be an option. Read the room though. If there’s no hint of attraction from the other person, this isn’t going to be the way to go about it. However, if you’ve both been flirting and things are getting hotter, saying, “Hey, would you like to come back to my place or can we go to yours?” isn’t out of the question.

Ladies, we can do this as well. Regardless of what society tells us, we’re sexual beings too. There’s nothing wrong with a confident, sexual woman asking for what she needs. Quite frankly, it’s hot.

2. Be specific on dating apps-

This should be a no-brainer, but it bears stating, say what you want in your profile. Are you looking for a one-night stand or friend with benefits deal? Say that. Regardless of gender, being honest and upfront about what you’re looking for will go a long way to getting what you desire.

3. Set up a public meet-

If you’re not quite comfortable with the thought of meeting someone for the first time (or second) in your home or theirs, set up a public place to meet. You can have a coffee while you talk about your desire to hook up in a place where you feel safe. And hey, you can still go home alone afterward if it doesn’t feel quite right.

4. Invite them over for an evening beverage-

It doesn’t have to be alcohol, but a sure sign you’re interested in a bit more than a drink is to invite the object of your desire over in the evening. Spend some time flirting and getting to know one another better over the drink of your choice. When it feels right, amp up the flirting and take it from there.

5. Look for partners the same way you look for friends-

With COVID, going out to bars and concerts may be put on hold, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make new friends or lovers. Are you a runner? Take a jog around the park and strike up a conversation with someone you find attractive. Anywhere you go is a potential spot to find someone new to befriend and possibly, become a lover. Pro-tip: Don’t be creepy! Again, read the ‘room’ and make sure the person you’re talking to is interested before taking things a step further.

6. Suggest low-key activities-

Asking someone out for a date may not be the best way to start off, if you’ve just met. If you’re wanting to get a feel for how interested they are, invite them over for something friendly. Play a game together, have a drink or two if that’s your thing. It gives you the opportunity to get to know one another a bit and see if there’s something there.

7. Find a FWB-

There are tons of dating apps out there, and even with lock-downs and quarantine on the rise, if you’re safe, there’s nothing wrong with meeting someone new. You don’t even have to meet in person at first if you feel safer not doing so. Take the time to chat a bit and make sure you’re both on the same page with what you want. When it’s safe to do so, meet up and enjoy yourselves!

8. Suggest a movie night-

Theaters are probably closed, but your home theater is always open! Invite the object of your affection over for a movie night. You can take it a step further and choose a rom-com so you can cuddle close, or even a horror movie so you can jump into one another’s lap.

9. You don’t need to find someone-

You’ve always got yourself. Learning more about your own body and desires makes it easier to express them to a potential partner. I wouldn’t recommend not masturbating just because you have a partner, masturbation is self care! But if you’re not quite ready to reach out to someone and be touched, this is always an option. And hey, when you do find someone you’re interested in casually dating, you’ll have a better understanding of what works best for you.

Sex need not be confused with commitment or attachment. It’s perfectly okay to be sexually attracted to a person and never desire a long term commitment with them. The key is being honest, upfront about your desires, and comfortable with yourself. Once you’ve mastered these three things, you’re well on your way to getting exactly what you want.