Dating : Start.

Start.

I’ve failed more times than I can count. Okay, that’s bullshit, here’s the list of the 9 women:

• 1. Proud, harvard, microsoft —text rejected me
• 2. Charming, neurotic, “busy” —text rejected me
• 3. Nordstrom, family-oriented, nothing in common — text rejected me
• 4–6. Anti-religion, loves horses and travel — text rejected me
• 7. Confident, community-oriented, open-hearted, unaware — text rejected me after 1 date
• 8–12. “Sarah” the yoga teacher — I text rejected her
• 13. PHD, biker — text rejected me after 1 date
• 14. Seattle-native grade school teacher who hates children — mutual ghost after 1 date
• 15. Set up through a friend — engaging, lots of interests, new to seattle
• 16–17. Outspoken, socially-conscious, likes to party — text rejected me after 2 dates

My dear friend Fiona stated “it’s a numbers game” and I spoke with John about how I was continually getting emotionally invested way too early without reciprocation.

So, here’s my new goal: 100 dates.

I’m going to reflect here and figure out what I can do better.

How I want to guide myself moving forward:

• Focus on shorter dates that last 1–2 hours. It’s a way to keep investment low and get to know the person without pressure.
• Have max 1 drink on a first date. Even if things are going “really well”. Their follow-up and investment is more important than the initial connection.
• Focus exclusively on values: 1) investment/interest 2) openness 3) engagement 4) health 5) independence — Forget ethnicity, religion, and socioeconomic status
• Be down to go on dates from meeting anywhere — apps, in-person, set-ups, random FB stalking, whatever

Wish me luck!