Dating : The 2 Approaches to Recovery from Heartbreak — Which One Are You Using?

After a break-up, you often feel a sense of loss. You might know deep down that you need to move on, but it doesn’t always come easily to you. You’re overwhelmed by many different emotions and scared to face your new reality without your (now ex) partner.

I have definitely been there.

Throughout my early twenties to mid-twenties, I went through many intense break-ups. The younger and more immature I was, the messier the break-up. I relied on instincts to get me out of misery, but my instincts didn’t always serve me well, especially when I was consumed by anxiety and desperate to feel secure again.

But things changed when I hit rock bottom two years ago.

I realised that I needed more than instincts to save myself and turn my life around — I needed a clear strategy. I stopped finding quick fixes and emotional band-aids; I set goals and moved on in real terms. Within six months, I felt like a brand new person, and my life changed completely.

After reflecting on my past break-ups and healing processes, I concluded that there are two approaches to recovery from heartbreak. Each has its pros and cons — which one are you using?