Dating : The Love We Lose — Why imperfections should be just that and not allowed to grow in comfort

Soulmates — someone who challenges you to challenge yourself. Someone who brings the best in you and makes you a better person. Someone who teaches you to be nice to yourself.

When you find that soulmate the world pauses in motion. The blurry edges fade further, and your focus becomes passion and the person in front of you magnifies to a new degree.

This they say is love.

Can you lose this love though? Can the image become blurry again? Can your world go out of focus? Why could it? Why would it?

They say you fall in love with the imperfections you see. The brashness of some, the squeak, ty tone, the out of place curls, or the mole on the cheek. Imperfections are plenty, and tread from personalities to physical characteristics, and even one’s psyche.

But imperfections should be just that — imperfections. A flaw in perfection that stands out for someone to notice. Perhaps even fall in love with.

What happens though when imperfections grow and take over the rest of you? The comfort of love, and the convenience of familiarity becomes a fertile ground for imperfections to blossom and even define one’s characteristics.

Take pride for example — easy to fall in love with a prideful person. You cherish the positivity, and the comfort they provide. Pride in itself is not an imperfection, but it’s an attribute to someone’s personality. In love however, being told of the admiration of one’s pride, it often can blossom to become egoistical.

A simple attribute nourished with love and affection can grow into a negatively defining characteristics.

There are more such examples. Ambition can often become greed, calmness can become sloth, confidence could become wrath. possessiveness can become envy.

When you let your imperfection over power your identity, in essence you become imperfect. And thereon no longer the person you were seen as by your soulmate to begin with. This results in love we lose.

Imperfections thus should remain just that. The battle is never against someone but within you to hold you are. Imperfections are the biggest oxymoron where the smaller they are, the more they stand out.

This shows merit in striving to highlight your imperfections by diminishing them.