Dating : The Only 3 Things Your Relationship Needs to Thrive

Every relationship is unique, which means that what works for another couple might not work for you.

There are no rights or wrongs when it comes to relationships. At the end of the day, you’re the only one who truly knows what you and your partner want from each other.

But, there’s no denying that one of the reasons many relationships fail, even though there is a big connection between the two people involved, is that most of us have certain expectations of what love should be like.

When these expectations are not met, we think that something is wrong with our relationship, and we start wondering whether we picked the right partner in the first place.

Limiting those expectations is a must if you want your relationship to succeed. At the end of the day, there is no perfect relationship, because there are no perfect people. But, a partner who is kind, vulnerable, and understanding, might be the closest thing to perfection.

As Alain de Botton explains:

“By limiting what we expect a relationship to be about, we can overcome the tyranny and bad temper that bedevils so many examples. A good, simpler — yet loving — relationship could end up looking very different from the conventional picture. We might not socialise much together. We might hardly ever encounter each other’s families. Our finances might overlap only at a few points. We could be living in different places and only meet up twice a week. Conceivably we might not ask too many questions about each other’s sex life. But when we would be together it would be profoundly gratifying, because we would be in the presence of someone who knew how to be kind, vulnerable and understanding.”