Dating : The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Men

If you live in Los Angeles and you date men, the chances are that at some point you were attracted by the Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man. I mean, he is charming and sexy and full of big ideas, just like the city.

Or… even worse, if you just moved in here and you are clueless about what Los Angeles really is… You might get yourself defenseless against this predator.

Justifying his actions perhaps from a sense of entitlement derived from this city of dreams, or perhaps from the megalomaniac delusions stemming from the electric heat that makes this city, this class of man abuses and damages without remorse.

His perversion will prevent you from believing that there is a way out. You will feel like you cannot leave the prison he created. You will forget that among billions of other men on the planet, it’s absolutely possible to find righteous love.

I have survived them, but the scars take long to heal (if they ever do). I wish I knew about these angeleno psychopaths when I first came here.

You are not going to fix them; they will slay you first. It’s an entire culture with deep origins.

Here a list of red flags: if the man you are dating matches them, run. Run, before it’s too late to rationalize. Run, before you lose your sense and identity. Run, before the darkness is so dark that you don’t know where to look for light anymore.

1. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man lives with his parents, or by someone’s favor. And he is constantly fighting with the persons he lives with.
2. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man does not have a job or a stable job. He works on seasonal gigs, or he never lasts in a job, or he has a delusional plan to become a millionaire in the next months.
3. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man talks badly about his exes; it was never his fault.
4. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man has little or no real friends; they are usually from his childhood; he has not made any mature friend as an adult.
5. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man is addicted to either weed or alcohol or coke, meaning that he smokes or drinks or snorts daily.
6. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man compares you to his mom, and he is constantly criticizing his mom.
7. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man rarely apologizes, and when he does, it’s an empty and manipulative excuse, as he repeats the misdemeanor later.
8. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man lures you into spending your money on him and then claims that he spends all his money on you. Or he spends some money on you and then treats you as his possession.
9. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man does not bother about planning dates; he just wants to kick it. He does not surprise you with cute gestures. He does not get you gifts.
10. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man criticizes your appearance or your job or anything that is part of your identity.
11. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man does not celebrate your achievements.
12. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man does not invite you to hang out with his friends. And you do not really feel like that would be fun anyway.
13. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man lies. To you or others.
14. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man is aggressive. To you or others.
15. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man does not respect your home: your home feels worse after him. Your roommates are not thrilled to see him. Your space is messier after him.
16. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man is not curious about meeting and/or giving a good impression to your parents or close friends. If he does introduce you to his family, it feels more like a chore than an enjoyable time.
17. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man calls you crazy, even if just kidding. Remember: it’s freakin’ 2020, and we have zero tolerance for stereotyping women as crazy or emotional or hysterical.
18. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man flirts with other women (but he will deny it and revert the situation saying that you are crazy). Remember: you deserve to be with someone who is not looking around and makes sure you know that.
19. The Typical Abusive Los Angeles Man will make you feel like you are not enough, that you are not sane, and that you are not worthy.