Dating : We Don’t Deserve “The Best” In a Relationship If We Aren’t Willing To Give It In Return

A few years ago I was attending a “girl’s night” complete with wine, games, face masks, and in-depth conversation.

The topic of our significant others came up and as if on cue, everyone started complaining about their partner and all of the things that they did wrong in the relationship.

Now, I am by no means innocent of this kind of behavior. There is no doubt in my mind that I chimed in with the negative qualities of whomever I was dating at the time because it was simply what everyone else was doing.

As the complaints rolled in every single woman at the party was told the same lament over and over.

“You deserve the absolute best and if he can’t give it to you, someone else will!”

None of us brought up what we could do to improve the relationship. We all simply agreed that we deserved the absolute best.

I don’t like using the word “deserve” to be honest, as I believe it has gotten me in trouble in the past. Time and time again I would start dating someone and all I thought about was what they were providing for me.

We need to have more honest dialogue around the reality that we don’t automatically deserve “the best” from someone regardless of what we are doing and putting into the relationship.

After all…