Dating : What Ifs???

At some point in time, everyone thinks of things in hypotheticals. We ponder the possibilities of what could be. And, sometimes that ponder, and wonder represents our inner desires. When it comes to relationships, these thoughts still hold true. Seeing someone you have not seen in a while or seeing someone you always wanted to get to know, may leave you asking What If?

What if we dated someone outside of our comfort zone? We get so pinned down by standards we have set for ourselves and what we believe society dictates is best for us. There is a chance our lives feel unfulfilled and our dating experiences feel futile, because we have not ventured out or tried someone different or new to us. What if the person you would enjoy dating is actually someone outside of your race, your town, your culture, your sexual preference, your political affiliation, your financial bracket, your religion, your education, and your physical preference? If you have not explored all these different avenues in dating, there is no way to say with absolution whether someone from a different criterion from you is not a person you would enjoy dating.

What if we reconnected with someone we once cared for? We get so caught up in the minuscule or mundane things that prevented a relationship from growing or lasting. There is a chance our lives have some sort of void and feel incomplete, because we have not tried to mend fences or seek closure. What if the person you reconnect with is the person who would be there for you when you are sick, when you are lonely, when you are confused, when you need a real good laugh, when you need a supporter, when you need advice, and ultimately when you need help? If you have not tried to reignite with people who could potentially provide you with these things, there is no way to know the potential positive impact they could have on your life.

What if we just opened up more? We close ourselves voluntarily or involuntarily so much that there is sometimes no room for a great person to come in. There is a chance our lives are filled with so much ambivalence that we are unsure whether or not we are making clear decisions on who we want to share time with. What if we widen our doors? What if we created more space? What if we opened our eyes more? What if we took a second look?

What if?