Dating : What Self Care Looks Like Beyond Pampering

Self Care is Beyond Candles, Face Masks, Baths or Being Just Another Trend

There is so much being sold to us in the name of self-care that we forget to work from the inside out. If you have to sell me anything, let it be food, books, tickets to travel destinations and writer’s conferences when I’m able to afford them.

Sometimes I think we have forgotten how to seat in silence and get in touch with our souls. How to listen to music in your house, dance and enjoy it with no rush. How to make a meal from scratch, sit down and have it without being on our gadgets. How to be present and worse, how to hold conversations.

I’m not against creating nooks and crannies or spaces in our houses where we can give ourselves a little bit of pampering and love. I’m all for baths, manicures, pedicures, face masks and face scrubs. I love seeing designated places in a house set for one to cosy up and read or play a game.

What I’m against is the idea that bubble baths and wine is the only way to self-care. These can be a gateway or a way to let out pent up emotions. To still your body and your mind enough to listen to your soul.

Last year, I was spinning my wheels with my writing and my life until I crashed and burned. I said yes to too many things that did not matter, not to mention moving out and having to be there for sick family members.