How to get rid of sick jealousy?

How to get rid of sick jealousy?

How to get rid of sick jealousy? Jealousy is the unconscious desire for exclusivity and possessiveness. Every human being has experienced this feeling before, but to varying degrees. This feeling can quickly become unhealthy if we don’t set limits on ourselves and if our fear becomes too much to bear. Jealousy becomes excessive when one arrives at crises which have no reason to erupt. We start rummaging in our pockets, calling our darling every hour, we can’t stand him (she) going to see his friends, we become hysterical when we see him (her) talking with a person who could potentially please him (or not for that matter)… In short, we are unmanageable because jealousy devours us. Here are 10 things you can do to get rid of it as quickly as possible:

1. Pamper yourself

Often, when women are victims of extreme jealousy, they tend to relax, convincing themselves that their man no longer likes them. You are going straight into the wall! Take care of yourself, your body and your face. Treat yourself to massages and facials at your beautician. Keep the line, do not snack between meals. Go shopping, buy little dresses and put on makeup. Make yourself beautiful for your sweetheart and above all, for you. The same goes for men: go play sports instead of watching soccer games or playing Xbox 360. You will feel better about yourself and your « enemies » will also feel better. You will gain self-confidence and be less afraid of « others ».

2. Do activities

You can’t stand your friend having activities outside of you anymore. You have become jealous of everything, even his passion. Are you tired of seeing your sweetheart join his football club every Sunday? Find activities to fill the gap that is eating away at you. Not only will you feel better in your sneakers but also, and above all, you will thrive in an area other than your daily life. Nothing better to feel alive. Sign up for dancing, theater, pottery, painting, badminton… You will meet new people, learn again to socialize. Better yet, you can share your new activity with your sweetheart by telling him how your class went today. So when he shows you his pride in his goal scored by his incredible left foot, you will flatter him, happy to see that he too is flourishing in his own way. You will both find a certain balance: he will no longer feel guilty by leaving you alone, and you, you will find yourself exercising activities that will make you forget the daily worries.

3. Spice up your relationship

If he (she) has set his sights on you, there are good reasons. Reasons you are messing up with your excessive behavior. But let’s move on. Take a cardboard box and make a hole big enough to fit little notes inside. I specify that you must do it together, not alone, it is about a « game » to find your old passions. Then, every week, write yourself little sweet words that you will slip inside your box (which you will have taken care to decorate for a little while). No need to write it down every day, but at least three / four times a week. Also force yourself to slip in « coupons » that you will adorn with a red dot to differentiate them from sweet words. Make a pact, tell yourself that you must put at least one red dot each (therefore one good each) per week. On this voucher you can write anything “good for a massage” “good for a cinema” “good for a restaurant” “good for dinner concoct by myself”…. Nothing better to revive the desire!

4. Say « stop » to phone harassment

You call him and he (she) does not answer? Is that driving you crazy? You are on the verge of bursting into tears and already starting to hate him. But what did he / she actually do to you? Think about your behavior for two minutes. He (she) may be shopping, or even having a drink with a friend. Not answering the phone when you are with friends, family … is simply called politeness. He (she) doesn’t love you less, is no less caring, he (she) is just busy. Stop calling him every half hour, he’ll end up cutting his cell phone and rejecting your calls. Especially if the latter have only one goal: to ask him what he is doing and with whom. Send her cute « I miss you » « I love you » « I’m thinking of you » messages… and don’t expect a response from her! This is also love, giving without waiting for a return, giving because we love the other. He (she) will give it back to you sooner or later. Be patient).

5. Organize parties with friends

Are you tired of seeing him strutting around with his friends in front of football, beers in hand? Do you deny him all outings apart from restaurants and cinemas with you? Do you cry and make him / her feel guilty as soon as he / she decides to go out without you? Why don’t you organize parties with your friends? Wouldn’t it be nicer to enjoy an evening of chatting and laughing over a drink with your loved ones, while your Jules does the same on his side? Rather than stay there moping and stubbornly in your delusions? Enjoy life like he (she) does! Independence in a couple is one of the keys to its sustainability! You have to show him that you too have a life apart from your relationship, that you too know how to have fun and party and that in addition, you don’t need him for that! Showing him that you can do without him is to prove to him that you are strong and independent. Two reasons that will rekindle the admiration he had for you… at the start of your relationship.

6. Stop inspecting his pockets

Picking up his pockets is revealing to him how much you lack confidence in your partner. If he (she) really had something to hide from you, he (she) wouldn’t put it in his jacket, he (she) knows full well that he is going to be searched. Have a little more confidence in him and in yourself!

7. Calm down

Screaming, crying, yelling at him, do you really think these overflowing emotions are going to solve your situation? When you feel like you are on the verge of a nervous breakdown, breathe calmly. Go calm down in your corner, scream your dismay with your head buried in your pillow. After and only after, express your feelings to your friend. Calmly explain to him what makes you angry. Try to figure it out for yourself: are these crises really worth it? Does your friend deserve all these reproaches? Your lack of self-confidence can be the source of all your worries and it needs to be seriously addressed!

8. Let him / her breathe

By dint of chaining it to you, your darling will end up really wanting to run away from you! Show yourself more permissive towards him (her) and his or her outings. You are neither his mother nor his father, he (she) is tall and responsible and has no accountability to you. You will quickly realize that the more you let him / her do it, the more he / she will be in your debt and stay by your side more often.

9. Put your imagination on hold

As soon as your partner walks through the door, you start to psycho. You imagine the worst, you invent improbable stories … Imagining what he (she) is doing is fueling your paranoia. You don’t need that! Read, call friends, go out, do the housework… In short, activate yourself, it will prevent you from getting upset alone and for no reason, and will prevent you from becoming a wreck!

10. Manage your emotions

if your partner wants to leave you, he (she) will. It is therefore futile to persist in withdrawing all freedom from it. The more afraid you are of losing the person you care about most, the more likely you are to lose them. Indeed, jealousy can quickly become unbearable for the one who is at the origin of all these anxiety attacks! Control yourself a little!

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