Is jealousy proof of love?
Track down the other and lose confidence at the slightest suspicion… Not putting up with him (or she) looking at one (or another), that he (or she) is happy without you… Is it natural when you love? Is it a proof of attention, of attachment? Or rather a lack of confidence in the other, in oneself, the complete opposite of love, what?
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isimistis is the big winner of our Debate of the week. She commented on March 21 at 4:46 p.m.
“I would say first that yes it is rather a proof of love. We love each other so much that we can’t stand the idea that he or she might be interested in someone else. But finally, when you are comfortable in your skin, confident, balanced do you experience this sometimes unhealthy jealousy that spoils your existence? I also believe it’s kind of like everything, it must be a moderate feeling. After all, aren’t we a little flattered that our partner is a little jealous or jealous? And besides, we ourselves have never pretended to be a little? «
For ysabella, jealousy is the opposite of proof of love. She commented on March 15 at 11:23 am:
Love having to be above all respect for the freedom of the other, I do not see how jealousy, synonymous with possession, could be a proof of love. We must not forget that no one belongs to anyone and that loving possessiveness denies individuality. The jealous person is emotional dependent: he cannot imagine his life without the other nor that the other can have a life without him; he fears that the loved one prefers another, he is afraid of being abandoned. We are faced with the most total negation of the individual.
Jealousy reveals a lack of self-confidence, poor self-esteem, emotional insecurity. The other is then an object which has neither the capacity nor the right to assert its freedom as an entity.
Where is the line between a little jealousy accepted as proof of love and an intolerable pathology? Jealousy is, in my opinion, nothing normal and appears to be the opposite of proof of love.
For Loun_R, it is more about self-esteem than love. She commented on March 15 at 3:43 p.m.
Jealousy is more a proof of self-esteem than love, although this feeling is natural and often difficult to overcome. It is sometimes justified, but in a large part of the cases, it is about crises which exceed the comprehension, and which demonstrate a deep insecurity of the person, who does not trust neither in him, nor in his partner, nor as a couple. When we see that some are ready to simulate a suicide attempt to get a little attention … From the moment the suspicion arises in a couple, the best option remains the dialogue in order to understand, before going into extremities, to the point where one sometimes comes to fantasize about deception to « explain » this jealousy.
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