POF : A little rant (kinda)
I was just on POF and was presented with the profile of a woman a fair bit younger than myself (I am old AF), I had two thoughts when I saw her profile « yeah, not a hope in hell she’d want an old guy like me » and « what a gorgeous woman with (apparently) a very good attitude and view on life ». Of course I could have just left it at that and moved on, but I was so impressed with her that I felt it would be nice to complement her on her profile (of course I would preface that with « You are probably not interested in me because of my age etc » but I just wanted to say how impressed I am with your profile, and perhaps a little bit jealous of guys your age.
Of course, as soon as I clicked on the message button I got a popup that said #user does not want to communicate with you. Please try someone else. Ok, I get it, people have the right to set the preferences where they are comfortable. But it seems so « cancel culture » that we would be blocked from paying someone a complement, I do know that there are people who would abuse that privilege, but must we all be tarred with the same brush? I know from my experience (admittedly limited) that it feels good to get a complement, and I also know that most people agonize over writing their « about me » section. So, when I see one that impresses me I like to encourage those people.
Ok, rant over.