POF : Calling out a cheater on POF. I still hold this grudge.
It’s been nearly a year since I discovered the young woman, in her early 20s living in the GTA, and still frequenting POF I assume.
I mentioned before that we talked over the summer through POF in summer 2018, and we added each other through other social media hubs (Facebook, Instagram) before the fall. It was while at work on my lunch break that I discovered the post on Instagram hashtagged #4years #anniversary #beer #iloveyou
I was absolutely stunned. Not in a manner of rejection, because we both agreed that a relationship wasn’t in the cards, neither was dating so we became friends. It’s hard for me to respect someone who uses POF to cheat on their boyfriend. I thoroughly examined every profile before I send a message. If their preference states « Not Single/Not Looking » I wouldn’t have bothered to contact her. Simply being on on POF while in a relationship is cheating.
I can’t remember what I said in the comment, but it was something along the lines of calling her out on being on POF recently and being in a relationship. I managed to screenshot the photos before she blocked me.
I had thoughts of calling her out once again, but that would only put myself at risk. I don’t know why I haven’t gotten past this when others would within a matter of under a few weeks. Is it wrong for me to carry on this grudge for this long? I shared this experience with a few friends, but didn’t go into details with who she was or shown the screenshotted photo. Ever since that incident, I’ve stayed off of POF knowing how twisted the dating site/app is.
Cheaters exist in the online dating community and that’s been fully proven.
By. nepeannow
It wasn’t your call. You don’t know what’s going on in people’s lives and I loathe people that judge others. You are not a perfect person and you wouldn’t want your dirty laundry aired either. Think of that next time, your moral highness.
I think you posted this awhile back. To be honest she was wrong for cheating but calling her out on social media inside of PMing her calling her out was wrong. I get you were upset but you privately message someone that shit, not call them out over social media like that.
Stop whining and move on with your life. Resentments are like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.
Grow up. We’re mammals. Don’t try to police others. She’ll get caught. Cheaters always do. Hopefully she’ll realize that she should either choose that she wants to be in a relationship and be faithful, be honest with herself and her lover and see how they feel about a somewhat open relationship, or realize that she can’t be faithful and she needs to stop being insecure and not be in a relationship
You aren’t going to change her. You’re not going to be able to make her be faithful. All ya did was lose a friend. Good job. Let me know how it feels to judge and look down on everyone. I hope that your affairs are in order
POF has always been bottom tier lpl