POF : Can’t tell if I’ve been talking to a real person the last week
I got matched with a female a week ago that is very attractive like a 9. I’m a dude and i probably hover around a 7, or pretty average dude. She messaged me first, which with super attractive female account in history has always resulted in a scam/bot. But to my surprise i wasn’t immediately asked to call them & go to some weird website. She actually asked me if i was going to the comic expo this weekend, assumed she picked up on that since i listed myself as a geek personality. Been talking ever since back in forth in the evenings/night. About our interests, work, etc. Normal talk. We did both want to see this new movie coming out so i did ask her to go see it with me. She said maybe, has to work this weekend. Which a lot of the time on POF when i get to the ask out stage….boom ghosted. Been still talking with her ever since. She is a lot more flirty then the other girls ive spoken to on the app. She’s cracked a few sex/dirty jokes which I wasn’t to used to with someone I haven’t met on an app. But I played along and i honestly have nothing to lose on an app so i didnt let it deter me. She does refer to me as « baby » a lot, like she will say « how was your day, baby » which was weird to me but i didnt know if that was just a cultural thing that i wasnt used to. She hasnt asked me for money, go to any websites, anything fishy. But i really just feel like something is off, but at the same time i dont want to ruin if it isnt. What do you guys think? Am i being played here? Any advise on what to do?
By. PlusUltra803
She’s playing the long con. Expect a clickable link to a website in about two months.
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Honestly, don’t take anything seriously until you meet them.
I always say to them really soon into the connection that I would like to meet them at a cafe and will continue to chat to make them feel more comfortable first. It really takes you out of the pen-pal-zone immediately because if they’re not willing to see you, then I wouldn’t bother with it if you are looking for a relationship.
Also, did she have one picture? Do they look like modeled pictures? If it is, that’s usually a sign of a catfish.
I was in a similar situation before, does she make any spelling mistakes? Or have really bad grammar?
It doesn’t really have to be a scam, you might be talking to someone that gets no attention online or has low self esteem. You’re that ego boost they need.
Sounds like you’re just having a textingship, so what you need to do is really easy and simple, both of you get the Kik app, it has text, picture, calling and video sharing, you’re goal is to see whom you’re talking with.
If you get an excuse they can’t do any thing you’re more than likely being played, don’t drag this on for more than two weeks, go from messages, texting/calling direct to meeting face to face in an easy progress, first time meets need to be simple and at least an hour. You’ll find out the next good morning text if it’s going to continue.
I feel like I’m living a similar story right now. I’m still cautiously optimistic, but I’m definitely still looking while this plays out. Keep us posted, I’m curious if this is a different form of scam, and more information is helpful.
Its a shitty state of affairs when an attractive woman who seems to be interested is met with suspicion.
Ask her if she wants to exchange phone numbers and text. Actually had a guy once want to talk to me via voxer and I did. He was a real guy but he did not feel comfortable exchanging phone numbers. We went on like 2 dates and that was it
She’s fake. 9’s don’t go for 7’s in online dating. In the real world, it’s possible, but online, nope.
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