POF : how long will a scammer progress in communication?
Has anyone had a suspected scammer or fake profile person, who lasted 2 months and even spoke over the phone? with details like her kids interrupting occasionally to inspect their tooth brushing proficiency. We started messaging through POF 2 dozen times over 3 weeks. She was not willing to meet in person when I asked, due to illness that began just after setting up a POF profile . After she refused to meet I continued corresponding anyway. I gave my phone number. we talked several times for 30 to 50 minutes each time. Also lots more messages and photos (not nude) were sent each way. I suspected she wasn’t real. She said her health was improving. I noted that she still worked each day. We got along very well so I pushed for meeting in person again. She refused to meet siting health worries and would contact me again when she s feeling better.
So I stopped contact and waiting to see if she ever does call me again Of course she is very pretty. She supposedly lives somewhere within 30 miles of me. What really surprised me was when she called me for the first time. A real woman’s voice! I didn’t think that would happen. She was intelligent witty personable She never asked for money or anything like that. I googled her photos nothing matched. She was from Michigan years ago. her phone had a Michigan area code. Google showed a man was related to that number. The man lives in a state halfway between Michigan and my state. This went on a total of 5 weeks. I’m not SURE she wasn’t for real. But there were a few red flags Any thoughts?
By. WeddingAggressive994
Fear and nerves could be one reason for not meeting, but I also wouldn’t go so far as to say scammer (not a financial scammer, anyway, not in the same breath as a Nigerian Prince). I’d say catfish. Maybe doesn’t look like her pics, maybe already married (or in a relationship).
Just giver her a story that you were keen to meet, and see how things progressed, but something has progressed with someone else, and you’d like to see how that pans out.
I was once in a very similar interaction with a guy. We got along and it went on for about a month before I ended things. I had just left the country a couple of days before he messaged me and hadn’t had the chance to change my location setting. As far as he knew we would never meet in person, so I’ve never understood what his end game was. We messaged each other constantly during the day, sent photos, talked on the phone. I honestly saw no red flags until something he said to me one day made me do some research. I looked up his phone number and found it linked to someone with a different name. Found an old social media account that was definitely made by the person he was pretending to be. It had phrases he had said to me almost word for word, but from 8 or 9 years ago. Things didn’t add up. I called him out on it, and he said he didn’t know where the site came from. After I told him I didn’t want to talk to him anymore I reported his profile and blocked his number. But my old phone would still receive texts and calls from blocked numbers and he messaged me a couple more times. I eventually told him to send me a photo of his drivers licence and never heard from him again.
I say go with your gut and move on. Sadly, dating apps make it far to easy for liars, scammers and cheaters to take advantage of people. The fact that it’s been two months and you haven’t met says to me you never will. Good luck and stay safe out there!