POF : How to navigate girls that don’t talk
So I talk to women on POF and it’s always super boring. Generally, I try to get a conversation going by asking questions. 99% of the time, they only answer my questions, and don’t continue the conversation by asking questions of their own. I feel, if I stop trying to have a conversation, the conversation is over, and I have to move onto the next person. Like wtf? What’s the deal, and how do I navigate around this? It’s also hard when they just make comments. To reply in only comments w/o asking questions is weird. Are you all having the same luck? Generally, I would think if someone replied to me, that means they’re attracted to me. Wouldn’t you wanna have a conversation with someone you find attractive, who is obvs into you?
Edit: Also, I’m funny as well, so I crack jokes here and there. Normal conversation. Not like question after boring question. Conversations should be so difficult to have!
By. ibaOne
Why navigate at all? It sounds like you give it a reasonable try and they aren’t responding in kind. Don’t waste any more time/effort than needed. If they aren’t contributing to the convo move onto the next.
Female or male, we don’t need to convince someone we are worth their time in online dating. They are there to engage or not. The sooner you figure that out, the better.
Move on to someone else. That would drive me nuts. I usually assume they just want the attention.
It’s a numbers game. I’ve spent many many years doing online dating. I’ve probably been on at least 50 dates, I’ve been through it all with online dating. I’m a guy by the way. I’ve had a couple of long relationships. I’m in my late 30s now, I started in my early 20s, in between relationships.
Based on my experience, its because they are chatting with many different guys or they are currently more interested in another guy. Nothing personal, the fact that they are even giving you uninteresting half assed responses means they are interested in you at least a little bit. Just not enough to have their full attention at the moment. It sucks, but you just have to keep messaging chicks until you get one that actually gives you interested replies and wants to engage in a real conversation. It takes forever to find one. Then sometimes even that one will eventually ghost or flake on you & then you have to start all over again.
I find this quite often with men on dating sites. I’ll ask them about things and they’ll either just answer the question, or answer it then say « what about you? » So I’m stuck answering that then adding another question for them to do the same to. Or else they’ll ask to meet in the 2nd message, I dont feel comfortable meeting a stranger without chatting a bit first and texting for a few days (though once it gets to a week, if they haven’t asked to meet then I do), but if you tell them this they either ghost or call you a time waster!
Don’t think it’s a problem with women in particular, just people in general don’t make much effort, or are just dull af!
I have that same problem but with men. I feel like I’m having the conversations with myself most of the time. I love a good conversation 50/50 back and forth but it’s hard to find.
That’s how some women are, I’ll usually ask a few more questions and give them a couple of more tries, if still no enquiry and engagement from them, I just leave them alone and wish them the best.
It can be a shame but that’s how it is sometimes
if they arent receptive to you, i feel like youre at a loss. i have the same issue with men. i mean, some of them come at me with their hands crossed waiting for me to disappoint them. nothing i can do about it but unmatch. speaking of which, theres a few that havent responded that i need to unmatch with lol.
Thanks for the replies, everyone. It’s a bummer, but you all have valid points. Sometimes, I get to thinking there’s something wrong with me, or I’m boring or something b/c it happens so often. But when you do find that person it clicks with, you know it.
This is what finally made me delete my account. I finally after months of no replies got an actual reply today. It was completely one sided, it was me carrying the conversation and asking questions and trying to keep it going.
I ain’t got time for that.
I want to know how to get around the bots first
They don’t want conversation, they want dick. Put up or shut up, literally.