POF : I’m (23F) not sure if boyfriend (22M) is cheating
For reference, boyfriend and I have been dating 7 months. We met through another online dating app and we both deleted it in front of eachother when we became official.
When we were looking at his phone together, there was an email saying he had a new match from PlentyofFish. I have never used that site before but I thought it was weird he got an email saying he had a new match if he actually deleted his account. I asked him about it and he said he had his account « hidden » but not deleted. I told him to log in and delete it in front of me and he did.
I then saw his email inbox had messages that consisted of « ___wants to meet you » and « you have new matches waiting for you » stemming from October. Does that mean he started using it in October?
Does that mean he has been actively using that site? From my understanding, when you hide a profile other users cant find you but you can intiate contact right?
When I confronted him he said he hasn’t used the site since April when we started dating and that he hasn’t been browsing. I asked him if he loved me and wanted to be with me and he said yes. I told him if he wants to be single and continue browsing dating sites he can and he got upset. I was upset at him the whole day and I just couldn’t bear the thought of him cheating. He said he didn’t like to be accused of something he didn’t do and is maintaining his innocence.
I don’t know what to think. I have used apps like Tinder and the notifications stopped when I stopped using it. I am hurting. I want someone to be with me because they genuinely want me and I don’t want to have to deal with the insecurity or fear of them browsing for something new and better. I didn’t want to date until after I was done with college but I had a ton of male interest. Now all my relationships have been from online dating and I am wondering if this is the norm for online dating.