POF : I’ve used POF before and it went well, a year later it’s completely different
I met a guy about a year ago on POF and we hit it off. I loved him but it didn’t last. Now I’m back and I’m getting like 20 messages a day like « hey » « hey sexy » and « what’s up? » And of course when I go to their profile, their bio just says « just ask. » Seriously? The whole point of a profile is to share details about your self so I can determine whether or not I should talk to you. If you’re not going to share anything in your profile at least send me a message that is a real conversation starter.
And don’t get me wrong, I’ve tried engaging these dudes but it’s like they don’t know wtf to do. And I know there are a lot of fake profiles out there but most of them are real guys that don’t have a clue how to talk to people or show any kind of interest in anything other than the fact that I’m breathing and I have a vagina.
Sorry… I am very frustrated.
By. cookiecrispbtch
I can’t offer anything other than solidarity.
I’m male, and have the exact same experience (well, apart from the receiving messages bit). It seems like the vast majority of profiles have some variant of ‘just ask’ or ‘will fill this out later’ (they won’t) the the sum total of the profile. How on earth do you come up with anything interesting enough to reply to when you have nothing to start with.
I’ve also tried to message some people with these profiles – and I never get a decent reply. I can virtually guarantee there won’t be any questions for me in the response and if it’s a full sentence I’d be suprised. I’ve learnt not to even bother now.
I opened it up the other day and it was all ads.
I think like 60 percent are obvious fakes too. I don’t know why they can’t automatically flag these. You can tell right away with the bad spelling and grammar. There’s a room of Chinese or Nigerian scammers writing these profiles all day. Ruins the site.
Try being someone who plays video games watches anime,plays DND or is just a huge nerd in general. I’ve gotten more messages about »growing up » than questions about my tastes.
Typically i say Hello,how’s it going? in my opening line followed by a question about their tastes assuming they put any, if not i got nothing to go on so../shrug <deleted rant>
I get a ton of notifications from women using the “meet me” feature on POF, but when I send a message to these women, nine times out of 10 they say they never did it. I understand maybe a few of them get embarrassed not knowing that it sent me a message, but for just about all of them to deny it, I don’t buy it.
I truly believe that there is software within these dating sites that engages members and makes them think people are interested in them, as well as a lot of filler profiles to make the place look busier than what it actually is.
i feel the fucking same. it sucks. lol
The trash came off of craigslist. They shut down their personals so now the free-to-message sites have a higher percentage of d-bags and d-baguettes.
This is off their site.
>US Congress just passed HR 1865, « FOSTA », seeking to subject websites to criminal and civil liability when third parties (users) misuse online personals unlawfully.Any tool or service can be misused. We can’t take such risk without jeopardizing all our other services, so we are regretfully taking craigslist personals offline. Hopefully we can bring them back some day.To the millions of spouses, partners, and couples who met through craigslist, we wish you every happiness!
Many people who use dating sites, especially men, do so because they can’t meet people in real life. Usually because they’re either terrible people, have a lot of issues, or just can’t socially interact.
Tinder is easy to work with, it’s a looks based hookup site (some women seem to think it’s not, but it is). So you generally know where you stand & you can’t message anyone who is not a match.
Sites like POF & OkCupid where you can message anyone will always have problems.
Many of these sites are full of fakes & people who just want something not serious.
People who don’t want anything serious don’t know how to initiate conversation, because they don’t know what to talk about. Or they’re afraid they’ll sound lame & run away.
The type of people you attract also depends on how you present yourself in your profile.
If you come across as horribly trashy/slutty/attention seeking, you’ll only get terrible people messaging you.
I will work for POF for free to help get rid of spam profiles. It can’t be that hard to determine fake profiles. I get it, some people set it up and can’t be bothered to fill out more information. How am I supposed to know what you are into based on « will fill out later ». It seems like the people who put effort into their profiles I can’t find.