POF : Just some openers I’ve used this week with no responses. I’ve seen many girls post on here with dudes horrible first messages. I try to keep it clean, read their bio or comment on their pics but it’s not working at all. I’m Indian 22M, is OLD only successful for white dudes?
Just some openers I’ve used this week with no responses. I’ve seen many girls post on here with dudes horrible first messages. I try to keep it clean, read their bio or comment on their pics but it’s not working at all. I’m Indian 22M, is OLD only successful for white dudes?
By. TheOGAllAround
Your approach looks good to me. Maybe it’s the type of girl you are messaging though? I would def reply to someone that puts effort in like you, but maybe you are messaging bots…
I agree, it may be the type of girls that you’re messaging. They may not be interested or they may not be real. Also you may look like you’re trying too hard. Some girls would read that and it may come off as desperation.
I would just stick to something like, « Hi! I enjoyed reading your profile. I see you like [….], I enjoy that too. I would enjoy hearing your thoughts about [….]. »
I would work on your grammar too. No abbreviations, like « hru », make sure words are properly spelled, and you use appropriate punctuation and letter case. I saw things like, « I saw you Like to watch movies. I do too, I saw 4 movies this week. » That wasn’t an exact example, but If I received a message like that, I would be a little turned off! « I read that you like to watch movies. I do too! I watched four movies this week! » The grammar police would probably take issue with my grammar too, but it’s less of a turn off.
I don’t think you should open with jokes such as, « If anyone asks, we’ll say we met at O’Toole’s Bar And Grill. » Or a cute pick up line. I don’t think you should compliment her on her appearance in vague terms, such as, « You are very attractive ». I’m turned off when a woman tells me « You’re cute » or « Hey, handsome! » That doesn’t impress me and I don’t think compliments impress women either.
You are to be commended for obviously respecting women and I think you have a good heart and someone will see that. I always tell people, online dating is a numbers game. You send out 100 messages and only receive 10 back and only one leads to a date. One date. So, you send 100 more out, and while you’re doing that, you get a few more messages from the first 100. Maybe you get two dates(with two different women) and one of the women wants a second or third date. Maybe a relationship blossoms, then dies a few months later. Or maybe it goes on for a year or more. Many possibilities!
You increase your chances by being positive(do you have a positive profile?), not sending out predatory or mysogenistic messages, and not continuously messaging women when they don’t respond! Definitely don’t make false accusations such as, « Well, I see you read my message, but you won’t respond because you’re racist! »(I know you wouldn’t do that, but I’m including that for other men who might be reading this).
I think you’re headed in the right direction, but should make some changes that I’ve highlighted above.
I’m sure you’ll find someone soon!
Keep shooting, somebody will get it. Women act like its a bad thing to not fit into their sensibilities.
Not trying to come off as whiny about the white guys thing, just don’t want to keep wasting my time if it’s not going to be successful. I’d rather focus on other things instead