POF : Likes and messages from out of state
I just joined POF and I’m getting a lot of « likes », and one message, from women who are all out of state. Many of these are obvious scams (much younger than I, or provocatively dressed), but a significant number look pretty legit… except, what’s the point of liking or messaging someone who’s out of state? Any insight on this?
By. ksvanhorn
Run away. POF is full of scammers. Only 1 in 100 is legit. That’s the level
I would agree with the previous comment, there are a hell of a lot of fakes and scammers. You could like them back and strike up a conversation and ask your question and maybe the real ones(if any) will say its because they liked your profile, but I imagine most will want your phone number and bank details within a couple of messages.
Same thing with me when I restarted on POF. I see no purpose of interacting with someone more than 35 or so miles away. Either scam (most likely) or sadly, a desperately lonely person. If not clearly a scam, I try to politely tell them it’s too far and wish them the best of luck.
I think I’ve figured out what’s going on. The scammers here are POF. I decided to try the paid service, which gets you some extra exposure, see who has « liked » you, etc. I noticed that none of the women who « liked » me actually looked at my profile; this means they just saw my photo in « Meet Me » and clicked on « like ». That, furthermore, means that POF’s « enhanced exposure » consists of putting your photo in front of women who live hundreds to thousands of miles away.
You can adjust your mail settings to not get messages from out of area ect. But yet, it is a clownfest on pof. Rejoined not to long ago to see if it is still the circus it was earlier this year. Yep nothing changed. Hell all of the online sites are a joke in some fashion or another.
I get a lot of messages from men (I’m female) who are out of my locale. I live in a rural area and am different (education, political views, lifestyle) than the vast majority of the people around here, so I chat with these guys if they seem interesting or compatible. I even had a long-distance relationship with one.
Some are fakes/scammers. Many are not. I busted a few that had a gf even though they said they didn’t. Many were just chit chatters, they were bored or wanted some human interaction. I imagine some of them were in a relationship and were lonely. (No excuse to go on a dating site, though.) A few seemed to actually be looking for a relationship and would be willing to do the long distance thing. Of course, some of them probably had a wife/gf and were just telling me what they thought I wanted to hear. Others, seemed to have been hurting from a previous relationship, so I think the distance served as a kind of a buffer to protect them from future hurt. Just some thoughts.