POF : My PoF tips.

POF : My PoF tips.

Alright guys. I’ve had some good and bad experiences using sites like POF. The good: just ended a 2 1/2 year casual sexual friendship with a girl that was 23 when I met her. I ended it with her because I was bored a month ago and went back on the site and found someone I was interested in big time, who is 25. That didn’t work out but because today we agreed to stop seeing each other. Doesn’t matter because while we were on the phone I was on the app and messaged one or two and starting chatting with another. Got the number and she texted me while me and girl no. 2 were ending it. It wasn’t easy at first, and I have been looking on this sub the last few days and noticed a lot of frustration so I’ll go ahead and tell you what helps me.

Preface: I am 39, not a good looking guy at all, and I’m broke as hell. Chances are, you are better looking than I am and/or have more money than me. I actually have a grand total of $0 right now. Fucked up teeth, bad haircut.. you name it. But what sets me apart is combination of things.

Most of what you guys say rings so true. The low response rate, the endless texts, ghosting, fake pics.. you fucking name it.. it’s old shit to me. Anyway a lot of the women aren’t attractive, the bots, gold diggers ect can make it tough.

One day I was looking at one girls profile pic was zoomed in kinda close on her face and it was a very attractive pic. So I click on it and I’m looking at her pics… the girl was fat as fuck! I thought to myself damn that’s some good camera work. Then like a fucking lightbulb went off.

Real quick: You MUST be able to communicate well. Listening is the most important skill I have. Being funny and smart, shit like that really helps too. Honesty. Don’t bullshit them. They know that you want something, you need to set yourself apart from the 50 messages they just got. Being genuine goes a long way. Guys, getting the phone number is easy peasy. Just be honest, sincere, and listen to what they are saying and read off of that. Ever play poker? Think of it like that but harder. I’m not saying be a pussy, I’m saying play the fucking game.

Ok so,

1. Take better pics. These women take many, many pics to get the right one. So I did too. Find your sweet spot and take 20-30 pics and select the best one. Everyone is getting judged on their looks so you need take the best fucking pics you can. Again, I’m below average but I can take a decent pic, and just recently got introduced to snapchat.. holy shit! Anyway, take better fucking pics is the best thing you can do immediately.

2. Play the numbers. Fuck it, message all of them if you need to work on your conversation skills. Practice motherfuckers. We’ve all been friendzoned,use that shit to your advantage. Learn your skills and hone your craft. Hell most aren’t going to give you a chance because of how you look anyway, but many will if you do no.1 and take a good fucking pic. You have to send a lot anyway no matter what, and increase your area if you need to. I personally won’t even bother if they are over 25-35 miles away. Of course the cuter ones get messaged.

3. I have tried all kinds of openers, and no shit the most successful one by far is « Hi. » I usually read the profile but don’t pay too much attention to it at this point. You’ll be surprised how many Hi’s back you get. Sometimes a profile will catch my attention and I’ll tailor it to that specific person, but generally Hi is good enough. OH, only message them once. They get one shot, and nobody wants to be hounded by someone they aren’t attracted too. Don’t be that guy. Sometimes you get blocked. Suck it up fucker, she’s not into you. That’s ok because you have good advertising (good fucking pic) and sent out a shitload of Hi’s out there. Does their profile specifically say « Don’t just say « Hi » and be clever. » Fuck that shit, go ahead and say Hi. If they are interested it won’t matter. That specific scenario did happen just recently.

4. Have a good bio. I know a lot of the women’s say « just ask » or whatever but they have that advantage, we don’t. Catch their attention with your intro message (Hi) and you’re decent fucking pic, then you need a good biography. And don’t even try that « I’m a nice guy looking for nice girl » bullshit. I know it doesn’t work, and so do you or you wouldn’t have made it this far. For fucks sake if you can’t be clever enough to come up with some shit to say… google is your friend motherfucker. Research. There are some good profiles out there, find a good, funny one and tweak it a lil. Copy/paste.

5. Holy shit I can’t believe the cutie just responded to that what do I do? Well, if you were paying attention at the beginning, you’re a good listener and can talk back. Just say hey what are you doing or something like that. I keep it kinda light at first, and whatever you do, don’t get your hopes up. People get busy or are cheating or working or lose interest and all kinds of shit, and can’t always message you right back. But you know when someone wants to talk to you and when someone doesn’t. Don’t waste your time on someone that isn’t interested. Nothing you can do will change their mind and you don’t have the fucking time anyway. What both of you want will become apparent. She going through a divorce? Well, don’t expect a long term thing and expect more of a casual situation. Do you really want to be involved in that shit long term anyway? Same thing with break ups, you’re the rebound usually. I tend to stay away from long term commitments but hey, do your own thang.

6. Take notes if you have to. Your phone is loaded with potentials now, keep that shit organized. I usually save the new girls numbers as POF Sarah COOL, or POF Carolyn BORING. Two actual examples from my phone. I keep it like that until I like them enough to remember their names and shit about them. Take those fucking notes if you have to. Nobody likes it when someone forgets who they are.

You’re going to get ghosted, friendzoned, dumped, cheated on and all that shit. Just send out some messages every couple days, week or so.. doesn’t take long just whenever you have the time. And hey, I’m always learning too, feel free to let me know any tricks you’ve learned along the way. You have to be flexible with this shit or you won’t go anywhere. When you do find someone, just hide your profile until you are ready to go hunting again. I’m kinda fucked up now so if a little clarity is needed, ask away.

Tldr; Pof tips- 1. get better pic 2. send a lot of messages 3. good intro 4. good bio 5. social skills 6. be organized

edit: format

By. batc0untrysurvivor