POF : No one ever responds.
I have had like 2 women respond in this app. And I don’t just send the hey what’s up message. I tried to find something to question them about they mentioned. But always a no. Even crafted a story with a genie and wish consequences and no reply. Doesn’t make sense to me. Why be on the app. I’m not a fat blob or anything so it’s not like jabba is contacting them. I am probably a 6 maybe a 7 when I clean up.
By. aFatBlackJEDI
It happens, so many people are online dating, some admit it, most still don’t. I used POF for a few years off and on, live in a city of under 90k with three metro cities that I drove to often. Local dating within 50 miles (rural areas 50 miles is nothing), was really to just getting myself back into dating, I didn’t like what was single near me.
Today, four years later I log into POF and those same locals are still there, they’ll delete their profile, create a new one, hell some have the same pictures from 5+ years ago.
So who is on POF? That’s a long list, but mostly it is bored people, sure some are single, most are married. I have seen a lot of these local female POF users in public, most are married or with someone, if they are single I can understand why, they can hide a lot in profile pictures.
Sure, women will put they want 6ft this, my race only, certain career, guess what guys that’s their choice, move on you’re not going to change their minds, as a matter of fact you’ll prove their point if your message them about it. I’m way under 6ft and went on several POF dates, about one or two every three months.
So here are some ideas to use when single.
If you’re using the mobile app, make sure you logout, don’t close it, log out. I’ve seen and heard a lot of new relationships get killed off because of people’s insecurity. What were you doing in at 12 am? Oh boy, you just shot a hole in this boat.
Let others know you’re looking, word of mouth is free and easy. It’ll be hit or miss, great way to get practice on opening doors, going dutch, leaning to have conversations.
Be stable, mentally, financially and bring something great to the table, the person you looking at should be there also. If they or you are unstable or insecure it’ll show within three months or sooner. If you or they are just out of a relationship, there needs to be six months cooling off or more and don’t get attached to them.
Volunteer locally you’ll be amazed at how many contacts you can make to help you with finding someone. Men, women will admire you for it, married or single they’ll have a glowing smile when you walk in the room. Three of my best relationships were from volunteering.
Go to local events, walk with confidence, dress for the occasion a car show versus the play theater you’ll need to have the right outfit. Women don’t want to see you in clothes you grabbed off the floor, go to dress up events. Met a gorgeous inside and out woman at a car show, the distance we lived killed it 6 months later.
Use social media locally, find local groups in your city. You want miss great body, well she’s probably is active with a bicycle group or yoga not sitting with online dating waiting.
Go on with your life, I was active enough on POF because I didn’t let it consume me, checked it once in the morning and went on with my life.
Pro tip: message in the morning from 5am to 9am, past 12 am you’re just another ocean of online players looking for late night booty reply.
Most of them want 9’s/10’s, if you aren’t a superfitguy with a high paying job, a car, are over 6 foot tall then they aren’t interested.
Even that isn’t enough, you have to send a long, well thought out message to every single one of them to get one response if you are lucky and hope a bunch of them don’t block you, because if around 15-20 women end up using the block button, which they use like its an ignore function, the site automatically removes you from it, your well thought out profile is gone in the blink of an eye, you will be i.p banned, your photo’s digital signature blacklisted and support won’t give a fuck.
Tbh POF is just a weird place…I feel like I do pretty well on there, I’ve gotten enough girls from there and alot of dates/numbers, I see that people say to send thought out messages but literally everytime I do I get no reply, on the contrary, only time I get a response is if I put simply « hello »
I feel like I’m pretty attractive (tall, muscular, good job) & I can pull some of the hottest girls in real life, but on POF just expect to be pulling way below what you can get in real life, I feel lucky if a girl I’d rate a 5 out of 10 messages me back & alot of the time it’ll only be big girls (not that there’s anything wrong with that. but 99% of the time it’s what I get, not thin, athletic girls)
But girls do get flooded with messages where I’m at so I typically try not to message them if it’s too late at night or especially if it’s too early (before 8am I swear I’ve never gotten a message back)
So some tips: I find less to be more when sending messages, try to send during the day & only when they’re online & most importantly don’t put too much weight on yourself over one girl or one message…I go in with the mindset of not expecting anything/too much everytime I send a message so I’m never too disappointed… fact of the matter is you never know what these girls want, & I feel like most of these girls don’t even know what they want lol
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I had the same issue before I gave up POF. I think you get flagged as spam for messaging different women the same message though. Then you have bot accounts, fags with fake female profiles, and transgender listed as female because they apparently don’t have that gender option.