POF : Pof has made me start to dislike women.
I’m probably undateable if there ever was a person like that.
Pof is probably the biggest dating site out there and its still free to send and receive messages with no catches, it has lots of people on it and it has the highest chance imo of finding someone.
If you were someone people want to find.
I can honestly say that other the course of several profiles (eventually my profiles get banned for being blocked enough times, this seems inevitable) I have contacted every woman I find attractive in the local area, every one, probably several times over time and I have gotten 7-8 dates, can’t remember the number, in four years, none of which turned into a relationship and 2 are friendships., the others fizzled out.
I look on this site every week for someone new to try and talk to, every week, I am socially awkward (obviously) and don’t really know how to meet anyone naturally without being awkward and driving them off, trying to strike up a conversation out in public feels wrong to me, like my attention won’t be wanted and i’ll just be harassing the woman.
I’ll get to the point, every time I look at the search results on pof I see the same smiling faces and inviting profiles, some saying how friendly they are, how easy it is to get along with them, to look at all these profiles and feel like sending them a message is a waste of time because they likely won’t respond feels bad, i don’t really know what to do about it, I’ve been told I am not ugly so its not that, I am unwanted.
I look at a new profile these days and it says how friendly they are in the profile, send a message and get nothing, then I think « friendly my ass »
Its not a nice way to be, that’s what this site does to men, that’s why so many men lash out when rejected, its not because they are inherently cruel, its because online dating makes most of them worth less than nothing and can be ignored without women losing access to men they might want to date.