POF : Random messages
Can we just talk about how insane it is that just anyone can message you??? Like every single other app requires people to confirm they’re a match before they can message each. But POF just lets literally anyone slide into my dms without me having a say.
Not to mention that that means you can’t unmatch with someone and the only way you can get someone annoying to leave you alone is by blocking them.
Let’s all just be honest and admit this app sucks.
By. RobbiSosa
Back in 2009 when I first signed up for POF you could actually really really filter out who messaged you. They used to have casual no commitment on there but got rid of that option. Here is a list of the people you could prevent from messaging you.
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People over 75 miles away from you.
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Only get messages from people in the USA
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No messages from people looking for Hookup
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No messages from people looking for friends
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No messages from smokers
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No messages from people with kids
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No messages from people who are not looking for a relationship.
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They have since done away with all that as of 2013. However you can still set message restrictions. I have mine set to only be able to receive messages from people in the USA, that are 75 miles or less from me. People who don’t smoke and people who don’t do drugs. I also have an age range set, and made it so if a guy wanted to message me first he had to have a photo.
Ah, the good ole days of dating *websites* before swiping apps. Before Tinder, everything was like POF where you could message anyone.
Message 100 people and hope that 2 respond to you. That was the good ole days.
Actually swiping apps have ruined online dating. Before, you could send anyone you were interested in a well crafted message and sometimes, just sometimes, connect with someone that might not have given you a chance based on just your pictures. Now it’s all about spending 0.2 seconds looking at someone’s first picture and swiping left or right before you even get a chance to know what that person is like.
Think of it as in real life. Approaching someone in real life is like POF – you say hello and strike up a conversation. Swiping apps are like someone walking up to you at a bar, you look at them in the face and go « NOPE! » and then they cannot talk to you. That might sound like a wonderful thing, but think about how many interesting people you’re missing out on getting to know by simply swiping « no » on their pictures.
Then again, I’m old and have been doing the online dating thing since the 1990s lol.
Look at your settings. Adjust how big the message should be but make sure to tell that to people (profile) because then if they like you and you want a paragraph then you are asking for too much just to say hello.
Some people just want a hookup not a relationship, POF is free, you will get lame people.
Ugh yes. Yesterday I got a series of ranty messages from a guy yelling at me about immigrants destroying our culture because I’m a liberal. On the bright side, I know how to block now.
I wish people sent me messages…
Question!!! I am seeking males on this app and I received a message from a female today.. how is this possible?! Is it a fake account?