POF : Reading between the lines
I’ll preface with….maybe I’m just a boring guy.
Anyway, when I find that I have an actual person that I’m talking to, the beginning of the conversation is usually something along the lines of learning about the other person. At some point early on, we present ourselves, filling in what our bios do not provide. I do this for fitness, I do that for leisure, I have these friends for this activity, I have a fascination with this subject, I like to travel to these favorite spots, I have my favorite pets, etc.
Then often I get one of these responses.
« That sounds cool. So what do you like to do for fun? »
I read what I just sent and notice that I already told her what I do for fun. So I realized (or speculate) that what they’re really saying is, « Everything you told me is boring. I have no interest in that. Those do not match my interests. That is not what I consider fun. I wished I swiped left. »
Question: Am I incorrect in this assumption?
Because the other option that comes to mind is, they don’t know how to read.
In case anyone is saying the solution is to return the conversation back to them. I state my interests and activities, then ask them about theirs and get them talking about themselves. I have done this. The response is usually, « I do this and this. So what do you like to do for fun? »
Anyway–thoughts?
By. mozart357
“Oh, for *fun*? Well, what I usually do for *fun* is to go to the nearest old folks’ home, get naked, and do a few laps around the parking lot. You’d be surprised how many grandmas plead with the police not to take me away.”
Yes. Or they’re not paying attention. I would probably just say I like kissing and see if she goes with it tbh.