POF : Sometimes the women here just make me wonder.
Its normal that when someone isn’t interested in you they may not respond or even put an effort in conversation. However, what is kind of disappointing when you do find one who does, but instantly black lists you because they get an opinion of you over a small comment. This happened to me a few times and its just wow.. im walking on egg shells. I have to respect their red flags, but I feel it encourages me/ other guys to be fake.
The 3 I hit it really well off with… all blacklisted me over strange comments.
#1. I said my newphews are at an age where they are fun to talk with and we debated on pokemon.
Her response: Oh so you like debating, eh. I dislike arguing and debating is a form of arguing so…
Literally after that she never responded to me again.
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#2. I said. Well My background is electronic engineering but I think i love my plants more than most of the electronics I have.
Her response: If you really liked your plants that much you would have gone into a field for it, I don’t know why you’re lying to me.
I responded im not but that was the last she spoke to me.
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#3. I said I drive stick. Where im from you don’t really have automatic cars, so I just prefer it.
Her response: I swear men who drive standard are always arrogant who feel its the only way to drive since most people can’t drive it.
I responded… no im serious in the Caribbean back then standard was the only way to drive because there are several hills. Im just more comfortable driving this way.
… ghosted.
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I mean it is what it is, but jesus christ. Its so easy for people to nit pic on small things. The only bright side is if that was all it takes, im sure there would have been no future anyway, but god damn
By. mistakes12
If you don’t mind me asking, what country are these candidates from?
What I have experienced, not only on POF, but whenever women have a list of « don’ts » then it will always be what turns out to be horrible chats. Swipe left if you don’t like animals, if you don’t support feminists, if you don’t vote xyz party, if you don’t support sustainable living, if you don’t support xyz cause, etc. I really have to think the profile is so unique for me to even engage with these women.
Usually some harmless comment will set them off….and yep, block you, ghost you, give you their righteous opinion as to why I’m a substandard human, etc. 😀 Just gotta laugh and keep on swiping!
This happens a lot with internet dating. Its hard to gain their trust because you’re just a random online guy I guess. I’ve had chicks give me their number and ghost me after a 45 minute conversation. What’s the point of giving your number if you’re going to give up in 45 minutes?
Woman in general change their mind a lot. Woman in the online dating world will change their mind even more than usual. Its almost like their just bored and looking to just text for a bit before vanishing. That’s why its important to never get excited until you have gone on multiple dates. Conversations or even getting their numbers doesn’t really mean shit in the online dating world. You have to find a girl that is persistent, which is rare in the online dating world.
I guess it’s just a sign that online dating woman are generally insecure.
A guy I had been chatting to extensively over several days, decided that I called him a liar because I said ‘lying down’ called me on it, I said that’s not what I said/meant but he ghosted me after that.
It goes both ways i guess.
I think people are just so jaded on all OLD now, no one believes anything anymore.
Yeah, those girls have weeded themselves out of your life. Trust me, that’s a good thing.
Looks like you dodged a bullet on all three. On to the next one
Lol I went on a nice date we went to eat. He unrequested put gas in my car for my ride home, he gave me a good night kiss .. and then blocked me. Lols.
I’m reading your post and your replies are completely normal.
My suggestion is to be yourself. If someone is going to “ghost” you over something that petty you did yourself a favor early in the process. There is no time for gamesmanship and any rational person knows not to take texting on a dating app too seriously.
A 5 minute phone call or in person met will tell you 10x more about a person then a week of texting back and forth. They could have old photos and be lying about who they are and trying to find reasons to end the conversation b/c they aren’t being forthright.
A normal person will come along eventually and you will appreciate her all the better after weeding thru these current challenging ones.
I want to share w/u something. I started online in October first time ever and it was freaky (tons of weird messages, offensive propositions, etc…). I became very guarded and would delete or quit communicating with men instantaneously over any perceived notion or mention of sex. One man that I liked and had texted for couple days made a comment about my body (compliment) I got pissed and stopped contact. A month later after going out with several bad dates (mostly boring, dull guys) and realizing the nature of online texting / flirting vs intrusive offensive predatory texting I initiated contact with that guy I “ghosted” a month prior. I apologized to him and explained why I stopped talking and asked him how he was doing. He replied immediately and was super chill. I’ve spoken to him every day since and we are going out this week. I guess my point is I’ve lightened up (lol) & realize everyone’s trying & no ones perfect or a mind reader.
Best of luck to you. You sound very nice & I know there is someone out there for you!!!
My guess is they’re just really insecure and somehow feel threatened in some bizarre way, and/or were just wasting your time for an ego boost anyway. No-one acting rationally ghosts someone for those things – they all display positive attributes. Keep being yourself – you’ll find someone deserving of your efforts!
I have to agree with most of the reply’s. They have a high list of demands . They are a 3 looking for a 9 . As mentioned these women are VERY insecure. IMO its best not to deal with with these women . I got ghosted for disagreeing about a move.
I love it when the trash takes itself out tho
I’ll get a lot of hate, but I dont give a fuck. Downvote me, bitches see if I care..
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A lot of girls.. most girls.. are shallow, and stupid. They are this way because theyve been told their whole lives that theyre fucking princesses and theyre beautiful little angels and theyre soooooo much prettier than everyone else around them and all that shit.
So they come back when you try to talk to them and they have this holier than thou attitude. Like they just think theyre better than everyone. Like YOURE interviewing for the job of being their man.. Are YOU good enough?
It also has an effect on their education. I dont necessarily mean like.. they didnt go to college because theyre hot. I mean a lot of social structure and social norms are nonexistent in their brain because of this. They grew up with this weird attitude and they think they can talk down to people and boss people around and shit.
And they usually get knocked up in their prime, they drop off exponentially fast because chances are they have a kid or something with some random dude when theyre 20, in their prime.. So that completely ruins all the prime living years of their life. Which removes them even further from social circles..
Then they want back in by offering up the only thing they have left.. Their pussy on a dating app.
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This obviously doesnt apply to all females.. But its amazing how many it does apply to.