POF : Why do I even try
Honestly, I’ve sent hundreds of messages trying to start a conversation and I haven’t gotten one reply. I see that the girl views my profile but I don’t hear anything back. Even if I’m just trying to be friends. What’s the point of being on a dating site if you don’t even message back. I’m just trying to have a conversation and meet new people in a city that’s new to me. Its fucking depressing and is just putting me in a deeper hole. I’m lonely and need people to talk to. Fuck
By. leakproofhorse
I swear women are much more interested in me in person than online, its rough man, and it can be depressing for sure. At least your trying, so that something, i took me a little while to get the courage to even start messaging girls on pof and okcupid. But now that i am, it really is deeply frustrating.
I feel your pain. I’ve done online dating a while now and at least for guys it’s a constant up hill struggle.
I recently tried tinder and have found a much higher reply rate on that. People « like » you based on appearance and a short bio, and you « like » other people. If you both liked each other you get a notice and can then message them. Much more likely to spark a conversation as there’s that initial filter of basic attraction first.
Don’t do dating websites, my dude. Much easier to meet people in person. Join a club or something.
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Late to the party here, but I just wanted to say it feels good that I’m not alone. I don’t exactly know what it is that I’m doing wrong, because I believe my profile is fairly interesting, and I’m not exactly bad looking in my pictures. I’m by no means a ‘hot guy’, but nor am I particularly ugly. (At least in my own opinion)
You know what else? The person has liked me, so I liked back. I messaged before this happened asking something (I forget what I asked) and she replied, then liked me. I replied back, but no reply. It says it has been read. So, what the fuck? It’s somewhat cruel.
You are not alone, friend.
Has anyone got any experience with paid for websites eg match.com? At first I was skeptical thinking if someone is going to pay money that probably means their desperate, but then I later on got to thinking the problem with free ones is that it’s too open to abuse. Wouldn’t surprise me if half the women on PoF aren’t actually single. Either they did it for a laugh, or more likely have started seeing someone SINCE creating their profile but decided to leave it up just to see what interest they get.
Once you’re working full time a tenner a month for a few months isn’t a right lot, so it doesn’t mean your desperate. And it means that anyone on there is serious about finding someone, unlike PoF which is full of fakes and time wasters.
I’m only speculating here. And my only example match.com doesn’t tell you how much it costs on the home page, so that’s pissed me off before I’ve even started lol! Any other suggestions?