10 golden rules to be happy!
“The prince dismounts from his white horse, puts the shoe on the feet of the young girl who fits him perfectly, they married and had many children. »No, the couple is not a fairy tale! It is made of compromises, readjustments, discussions (and of course a lot of love!). We all have in mind this perfect couple of friends, who resists everything while coming out even stronger…. What is their secret ?
1 / Communicate!
It seems obvious, and yet, the lack of communication is the basis of many romantic breakups … Talking to each other when things are going badly, but also when things are going well, allows you to maintain complicity and avoid certain arguments. But with the infernal rhythm of the days, it is sometimes difficult to do it.
2 / Find your place
Too fusional, the relationship becomes stifling and can make you unhappy. We forget each other for the benefit of the other, a situation that can one day explode when we realize that we have left aside what we were thriving for the benefit of the couple. Conversely, by not sharing enough things, by living on your own, we lose the bond that binds us to each other.
3 / Get out of the routine
The daily grind, the scourge of the couple! To maintain the passion of the beginnings, it is necessary to be able to escape from the routine and organize privileged moments. It is in these moments that we can rediscover the other, be more relaxed, far from worries such as « thinking about hanging the laundry », « buying chocolate mousse » …
4 / Defuse arguments
We must not lie to each other, arguments are inevitable. The difference between a happy couple is that each one puts their energy into defusing the conflict rather than stirring it up. Instead of building up the pressure, making accusations just to have the last word, it’s important to stay calm and try to find a solution. What is done is done, it is now time to sit down to think things over and try to work things out.
5 / have a fulfilling sex life
Having fun in bed is still the basis of a happy couple! But at the end of a certain time of relationship one sometimes has the feeling to have made the turn of his sexuality and the boredom sometimes replaces the passion of the first lovemaking. Because of the routine, the hectic pace of the day, we also take less time to meet and somersaults under the duvet end up being counted on the fingers of one hand.
6 / Accept the difference of the other
In the early days of the meeting, this difference attracts us, intrigues us. But once the euphoria has subsided, it can on the contrary irritate us. The peculiarities of the other can annoy us quite simply because they do not function like us, especially if the couple live together.
7 / Trust in the other
Mutual trust is essential for the proper functioning of the couple. Without it, the couple is built on foundations that can be shaken at any time. Jealousy and mistrust reign, suffocating the couple.
8 / be good friends
While it might sound strange, a couple needs a real friendship to function. An affection and a bond that goes beyond simple passion. Once the intensity of the beginnings subsides, it is this deep understanding that allows a couple to last, to love each other differently and to overcome periods of crisis. Like two friends, we must be able to take advantage of what brings us together and not let what opposes us interfere.
9 / keep your garden a secret
While communicating is important, don’t forget to keep your own garden a secret. The other does not have to be aware of all our thoughts, our worries, our annoyances. Everyone can keep their secret thoughts and unacknowledged desires to themselves. And then, the mystery also helps to maintain the seduction in the long term.
10 / Dream and plan for two
Building projects together and planning for the future means showing that we want a lasting relationship. Living together, having children, deciding to go on vacation this summer are all projects that bring the couple together, bring them security and stability. On the contrary, they can be the cause of a breakup if one of the two does not agree with the other. For a couple to have a chance to function, it must be thought of from the start as a project of sustainable life. But apart from these concrete desires, it is also important to dream together. These slightly crazy projects, which will probably never come to fruition, strengthen the bond and create a secret universe for the couple.
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