Dating : I related to this article.

I related to this article. I would not necessarily label myself a “demisexual” but more a very traditional woman in my approach to relationships. Meaning the emotions of love and attachment are completely intertwined with sex to me. I never approach sex like “it’s just fucking” or “getting off;” I always approach it like it’s a deeply intimate, meaningful way of connecting on a spiritual level.

Never done one night stands but like you I have been in circumstances where I started to develop emotional feelings for someone quite quickly and felt open to being sexual with that person. I think it’s sad that society considers sex to be vacuous, empty, not a powerful means of connection. It always will be to me. I think every guy that I’ve had sex with also felt at the time that I was emotionally and spiritually present completely.

No one has ever called me a slut but I’ve always failed to understand the slut concept. The whole idea of “slut” posits that sex is something wrong or dirty and that women who have sex are somehow diminished, cheapened or defiled by it. That’s crazy when you view sex within the framework of deep spiritual connectedness and intimacy.

Sex is a way of learning to know yourself and others, of communing with another human, your body, Earth, nature, the divine wholeness within. It can be a spiritual practice that allows you to develop relational skills and to understand things on a somatic level. It’s a form of moving meditation, like dancing, yoga, etc.; however it’s also the deepest embodiment of creativity in metaphor.