Behavior of a man who wants to break up: 3 (+2) signs
The signs of rupture in a man are not as numerous as you might think.
However, we can confuse some of these signs with signs that have nothing to do with an imminent desire to break up.
In this article, I’m going to tell you about all of this in detail before showing you how to resolve this situation.
How does a man behave when he wants to break up?
What are the signs of rupture in a man?
There are several signs that can put you on the right track and make you realize that your boyfriend is reluctant to leave you.
But, before I see these signs, I’m going to tell you about the general behavior, the most common tendency behind a man who wants to break up.
The main characteristic of a man is that he keeps everything to himself.
Be careful, I don’t put all men in the same basket: it’s a trend.
But, to come back to this characteristic, men will withdraw when there is a problem to first try to solve this problem on their own.
That’s still a good thing: they’ll try to fix the problem, even if the way to do it may seem awkward.
Generally speaking, your partner thinks that he is going to bother you with his problems and therefore does not want to bother you with it, which may seem surprising given the problem they are having.
For your partner, it is mainly linked to a lack of self-confidence in your relationship: he will think that by opening up to you, he will appear weak or ridiculous and therefore prefers to do nothing.
The cause of this behavior usually comes from a lack of communication in the couple and a lack of understanding of the other.
Men tend to withdraw when there is a problem.
The 3 (+2) signs that he wants to break up with you
Now that we have seen the most common behavior, I am going to reveal to you the 3 main signs that you can meet in a man who wants to break up.
Sign n ° 1: the distance
It goes back to the main problem you just saw.
Distancing yourself is characterized by a decrease in attention, a decrease in one’s presence, an increasingly important desire to go it alone, etc.
This is something that can be very difficult for the person experiencing this behavior.
Silence and estrangement can give the impression of feeling like a parasite in the life of the other, and can impact your self-esteem and your self-confidence at the same time.
You will think that it is you who is responsible for this, when the reality is completely different.
Sign # 2: He is no longer interested in you
This sign is felt immediately.
Typically, your partner will no longer pay attention to your days, will not listen to you willingly when you talk about what happened today at your job and will no longer take an interest in what you are passionate about.
Be careful, however, it can happen that your partner is just not “present” and can present this sign for a few days without wanting to break up with you.
It is important to set the context and to check that your partner is not going through a difficult event in his life which is the cause of this feeling of being elsewhere.
Sign n ° 3: He pushes you to the limit on purpose
This is the most obvious sign, and the most difficult to bear: when your partner pushes you to the limit in your relationship, there is never anything good that comes out of it.
Angry outbursts, gratuitous nastiness, violence, …
Everything will be good to push you to the limit and make sure that it is you who wants to leave him.
The 2 signs to watch out for
I will now move on to 2 signs which do not fit into the above category, but which should nevertheless be watched.
These 2 signs show that there is a lack of love that is starting to settle in your relationship, and which can be the gateway to the desire to want to break up.
These signs are the two most important, but they are not the only ones.
To know the other signs that show that he doesn’t love you anymore, I recommend this article: he doesn’t love me anymore
(This article also takes into account the case where he wants to leave you but you still love him).
Sign # 1: His priorities are changing
If your partner more or less suddenly starts to change his priorities in life, it is because a lack of love can start to germinate in your relationship.
The change of priority can be perceived as follows: your partner will no longer prioritize the couple as before, but will rather prioritize their own activities, their social circle, etc.
In short, the couple will be in the last place of their priorities.
However, be careful once again, because a couple can function very well without the couple being a priority in the lives of both people.
It’s even a sign that the relationship is pretty healthy.
With the difference that, in this type of couple, the couple is certainly not the priority, but remains a central element of the life of the people there or, on the contrary, it is no longer the central element when there is a lack of love.
Typically, it can be seen as a lack of motivation to maintain the couple, by a voluntary let go and by not respecting the habits and “rules” of life that you both have established.
Sign # 2: There is less activity between you
This sign can be seen when you are used to going out regularly, but, little by little, going out is scarce and the time spent together is getting shorter and shorter.
It is a true sign of it when, during this same period of time, your partner will continue his life as if nothing had happened: he will continue to see his friends and to move.
If this part of his life is also impacted, it is because there is another underlying problem that has surely nothing to do with your relationship.
This sign joins the taking of distance, which is a sign that your partner prefers to be alone to think, to take stock of the situation and the rest of your relationship.
So be careful, this is the first sign that a break-up may take place soon.
Why does a man behave like this?
Now you might be wondering why he doesn’t dare tell you it’s over, right?
There are several reasons for this.
In all its reasons, be careful, because if your partner cannot make up his mind and is not likely to take the lead, he may not dare to break off and continue the relationship indefinitely, just out of fear.
So you risk spending the rest of your life with someone who pretends to love you.
Reason # 1: fear of regret
“Does a man regret a breakup?”
It’s a question I hear often, and the answer is yes.
It’s human and it doesn’t stop only with men: at some point we regret a breakup, even if it was the right thing to do.
Your partner right now may not be completely sure of himself: he doubts his desire and is afraid to regret his decision later.
He will therefore keep everything to himself to be able to think, without this really impacting your relationship.
Reason 2: the desire not to get your hands dirty
This reason is related to sign # 3 (He pushes you to the limit on purpose.)
Basically, your partner wants you to make the decision to break up.
In this way, the breakup will be easier for him to take: he will be able to complain without problem to those around him and appear to be the victim of a relationship that has not worked.
But the post-breakup will also be easier to take: he will always regret a little less since he is not the direct cause of the separation, and he will therefore be able to cope better, because he will more easily go beyond the stage of doubt.
It can also simply be related to a lack of courage on his part.
Reason 3: Social pressure
It doesn’t seem to be seen from the outside, but social pressure can take its toll.
If your partner’s friends and family like you and they keep telling your partner that they admire you and that you are the perfect couple, it will be very difficult for them to break up.
Reason n ° 4: The fear of the after-breakup
The after-break is scary.
It is the door open to the unknown: our deepest fears reappear …
Post-breakup fear alone can keep your partner from breaking up with you and staying in that state of semi-breakup.
How to unblock the problem?
There is only one way to unblock this problem.
Talk to your partner.
Tell her that you love her and that you feel useless right now.
But above all, do it without putting pressure on him and without getting angry.
This is the only way today to solve this problem.
So, as soon as you get the chance, don’t hesitate: break the ice and discuss it with him.
Do everything to be an understanding and non-judgmental person.
What to do now ?
Before any action, check the behavior of your partner and check that there is not an underlying problem that has nothing to do with a desire to break up or a possible lack of love.
Then I really recommend you discuss it with him.
I wish you the best,
Tony
Post-rupture technician
Don’t forget to share the post !
