Dating : 5 Signs You Are Dealing With A Covert Narcissist

#5. You see flashes of depression, loathing, and shame

There were moments when my ex would fall into a pit of despair… usually under the influence of alcohol.

I remember it was his birthday and he fell into loathing and stated how he had no money and had done nothing with his life.

When his friends mentioned that he had me he looked up and said again, “I have nothing.”

These cycles weren’t rare. In fact, every few weeks he would show signs of depression but refused to admit that anything was wrong. Usually, right after the grandiose version of him would be back and louder than ever.

It’s extremely important to remember that there is a whole spectrum of narcissistic personality disorder. Many of the signs are easy to miss, especially if you are dealing with someone who is covert.

Don’t ever beat yourself up for missing the signs. Manipulators are masters of their craft and what matters is that you identify when you are being treated badly… and choose to walk away.