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9 ways to get heal and get over a painful breakup
“Breakup hurts”, we all are aware with these words, why it won’t be…as Breaking up with someone you’ve cared so much, given priority more than anyone ,spent part of your life with is never easy.
Many of our relationships ended with my being overly jealous, fearful and obsessive.And if the breakup came as a surprise, multiply these things by a factor of ten. Then something happened and our thinking slowly began to change.
Here’s what to do after a breakup to let yourself heal and move on.
1 . Just end your communication:
In order to fully separate emotionally and move through your grief in a healthy manner, you need physical space from your ex. Even Do NOT stalk their social media.
The purpose of this no-contact rule is to give yourself time and space to heal and an opportunity to change your perspective
So, the best thing to do is remove all temptations by un-friending or deleting them. Don’t fall into the trap of caring whether this might be perceived as rude by your Ex.
2. Accept that it’s over:
After a break up it’s natural to hold out hope that the other person may get back in touch and reach out to you to reconnect. It’s better to end all contact completely.
Staying friends is possible after a breakup but you have to be very clear that the romantic side of the relationship is over and that they could well be moving on to someone else, so don’t hold yourself back by waiting for them when they’re probably not waiting for you.
3. Don’t control your emotions:
In reality, mental stability and emotional balance are mutually dependent on each other. It’s okay to do. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed. Even if the relationship wasn’t the very best it’s okay to be sad.
Just because you ignore your feelings, it does not push your emotions away from you.
Cry if you feel to cry.In fact, crying is a healthy way to vent out your pain and negative emotions,but do not make it a habit.
Emotions not handled in the right way will keep haunting you throughout your lifetime.
4.Maintain/Establish Daily Rituals or Routines:
You cannot trust yourself right now — not your feelings, not your thoughts, not your needs. You are panic driven and highly irrational at the moment.
A routine will help you, even if you are more advanced in your recovery. Having a baseline, a daily ritual of doing the same things, will keep you on track.
I encourage you to try a particular morning routine that has proven to be very effective for recovery:
5.Rebuild your self esteem:
Your self-confidence can take a huge blow after a break up and someone telling us they don’t want to be with us can hugely impact our self-esteem. You have to realise that the problem was not with you but lies with them and if your ex-partner has said anything to lower your self esteem you must understand that it is their own insecurities that they have projected on to you.
You are amazing, strong and confident and you can do anything you want and be anything you wish to be. Building your self esteem back up can take time but being independent and doing things by yourself without your ex will improve your confidence so much.
6.Start giving importance to yourself:
Get enough sleep, eat healthy foods and exercise well to stay fit.
Put your time into hobbies that you maybe stopped doing because you were in the relationship and focus your energy on things that make you happy.
You can also start a new hobby to take your mind off of the breakup, like taking up an instrument, learning to cook, enrolling in a part-time class, going to yoga, working out more or anything that will keep you busy and release happy endorphins. Keep a good routine and get up early and get enough sleep. Care for yourself and work on you.
7.Remove visual reminders of them:
Wipe your place completely clean from all the stuff that reminds you of your Ex.
Get rid of anything that reminds you of things you did together. Delete any pictures you have of the two of you if it’s too painful; throw out any little gifts or keepsakes from dates.
For now, though, get it out of your sight and reach.
Having a clear out will help you to move on to the next stage of your life without your ex.
8. Start planning your future immediately :
Remember, breakup is not just the end of a relationship, but also a new beginning of life. We all go through highs and lows in life and if he or she were really your “great love” they wouldn’t be able to walk away.
Focus on how you’ve grown, what you’ve learned, and what you’re grateful for. Six months from now you can be in a completely different space mentally, spiritually and financially. Keep believing on yourself.
so,Plan your future and work hard on it
9. Find a Support System:
Find someone you can talk to at any time and understand you, be it a family member, friend, coach, or online community. It’s important to get out what is bothering you and to receive feedback.
You are not alone in this: there are people around you going through the very same thing you are. Draw power from that realization.
So, these are some practical ways to get over a breakup.
