Dating : A Few Lessons About Relationships From The Real Housewives of Beverly Hills Reality Show.

Let me start by saying that yes, I am late to the party cos I kinda just started watching this specific one. And I absolutely love it! I know it’s all produced and what not but some of the drama hereon, girl. You can’t make up some of the stuff.

I kind like the fact that the cast is mainly 40+ and that dynamic is very interesting to me. Also, seeing the different relationships has been quite enlightening on some level.

Lisa + Ken

I absolutely love Ken and Lisa’s marriage and how long it’s lasted and just to see that in the midst of all the negativity that marriages often receive is refreshing. It is possible to be married for 30 years, even when you get married within three months of knowing each other.

That tells me that there is no blueprint to a successful marriage other than what the two people in that marriage. There are tools that can help but ultimately, there is no one-size-fits all roadmap and that is encouraging.

Kyle + Mauricio

And then there’s Kyle and Mauricio. Seeing Kyle getting back to her passions after being a wife and mom for so many years is super inspiring. There is someone who said that you can have it all, just not at the same time. I feel like Kyle is proof of that. You just have to be honest with yourself to know what works for you. Again, there’s no one right way.

Yolanda + David

I enjoyed Yolanda and David’s marriage as well. I think seeing Yolanda catering to David so willingly was such a beautiful thing. It did not make her any less of a woman. And you know, this is a tricky subject, though it shouldn’t be. You get to choose how you handle things in your home. It was just beautiful to see that. And I think it takes a level of security in oneself as a woman.

Rina + Tom

Lisa Rinna’s marriage reminds me of the beauty of being with someone who gets and accepts you for who you are just as you are, cos Lisa be crazy and I absolutely love her. I think I may have stopped watching the days of our lives when they got someone else to play Billy. I know, I get attached to my characters. LOL. But yeah, I absolutely love their dynamic.

Camille + Ex

I have to mention this, Camille’s marriage and how it ended was a clear reminder of why I resigned from the ministry of saving people. You know, she stood by this man through the darkest of times and then when he felt he was back on top of his game, he left her. The audacity! A caveat is that they were married and I get that you have to stick to your vows. Seeing how it played out though, reminded me why I say I’d rather be single now than to try and help another grown person fight their demons. I am doing my own work as a single person. I want to be with someone who is also doing their own work. Otherwise, I will just point you to the cross because Jesus is the Saviour, not me.

Taylor

Taylor’s situation broke me. And that I feel is a bigger conversation that I am not sure I am qualified to have but one that I have the most empathy for. I have had a glimpse of what it’s like to be in an emotionally abusive relationship and it’s so true. The whole they do something and then follow it up with a grand gesture that leaves you a bit confused, especially if you love the person. I remember my brother telling me I was in an emotionally abusive relationship but I did not see it that way until after I left. Disrespect is what led me to leave, but I kinda see how one can stay in that cycle, at times without even realizing it. Physical abuse is a bit different because you have the evidence, but the psychology of all abuse is kind of the same. The psychology of why people stay, I mean.

Conclusion

I think lessons are everywhere around us if we are only keen enough to look. I have a thing about humans and relationships that fascinate me and that’s why I am able to pick these things out even as I get entertained. I hope this was worth your time and that you pick a few lessons from here that can add some rainbow to your own life.

xoxo,

Miss Adoyo.