Dating : An Ode To Eating Pussy

Back in November, I wrote an article essentially shaming anyone who didn’t eat pussy, saying in no uncertain terms that there was no excuse for it, outside of (1) Their partner being unhygienic, and (2) Their partner being someone who simply didn’t enjoy getting eaten out.

It was less about celebrating the act itself, and more about encouraging more people to try it, for their partner’s sake. Sex, after all, is a give-and-take between consenting adults, and no partner should have their wants and needs ignored. Especially when it comes to something as common (and tame) as oral sex.

So, this piece won’t be a rehash of that first article. I’ve done my shaming. I’ve stood on my soapbox.

Instead, this piece will focus solely on “gushing” about my favorite sex act. So with that, let me list the oh-so-many reasons why going down on a woman is the best thing ever.

I don’t mean “easy” in terms of technique — you can’t just go down there and lick around aimlessly — but rather that, performing the various techniques once you’ve learned them is easy.

It’s not like thrusting during penetration, where the size and shape of your member, the position you’re in, your level of stamina, and the fluidity of your hips all pose potential challenges and limitations.

Tongues and fingers have a much greater range of motion than a penis, and are much easier to manipulate. It’s why fingering is even a thing. Your fingers can bend in ways your dick (hopefully) can’t, and as a result, can reach things that would have otherwise gone ignored.

So simply put, one of the reasons I love eating pussy, is because it’s easy to do. It’s easy to flick a clit, or suck it gently. It’s easy to swirl my tongue around her bits in an infinite number of sexy ways. And given the fact that more women orgasm from oral than do PIV, it’s an ace in the…well…hole.

Oral sex is inherently intimate, and intimacy is inherently hot. As cliche and corny as it may sound, it takes a certain level of trust for some people to let their partners go down on them. It’s a vulnerable position for a lot of women to be in. Their partner’s face could not be any closer to their most private area. That means they see it, smell it, and taste it all. I’ve (sadly) heard stories of women who won’t let a guy eat them out during a one night stand or a casual hookup for this very reason — despite the fact that they enjoy it and can orgasm from it. No one should have to ignore their own needs because of insecurities.

It’s another reason why I love eating pussy. Knowing my partner trusts me enough go down on her shows me that she knows I won’t judge her. I won’t make a face, gag, or show any signs of disgust. It allows her to be comfortable — and with comfort, comes enjoyment. With enjoyment, comes orgasm(s).

I will say unequivocally that I genuinely love the natural smell of a woman. I’m not just saying that to get brownie points from some of my readers. While I know all about the unfortunate stigma surrounding feminine hygiene, I’m not saying this just to ease some of those concerns — smell plays a significant role in my overall enjoyment — full stop, no bullshit.

There’s no way to replicate the scent of a woman. If you want to smell a musky vagina, you have to go straight to the source. Psychologically, it’s a massive turn on to know that in that very moment, we’re the only two people on Earth who know what she smells like. And the smell itself isn’t static either — but dynamic — with the scent varying, depending on how wet she is, what her diet is like, the fabric of her underwear, where she’s at in her cycle, when she showered last, and so on. It allows for an intimate variety you can’t get anywhere else.

In sticking with the previously mentioned intimacy aspect of it all — there’s noting more intimate than getting an up close sniff of your partner’s body.

This is probably my favorite part of eating pussy — the knowledge that I’m pleasing her.

A good number of women have used the words “control,” and “power” when describing why they enjoy going down on a man. While it looks like a submissive position from the outside — I’d argue that the person performing oral sex is actually the dominant one. Even though a person is often literally on their knees when sucking a dick, they’re the ones making the owner of said dick moan and curse and shift their hips in pleasure. No different when the roles are reversed. Every tug of my hair, pinch of my ear, or squeezing of my head with her thighs, is an involuntary sign that I’m doing my job and doing it well.

The flushed face, the panting, the swearing, the looking down at me in sheer confusion, as if to say “How are you doing this to me right now???,” all boost my ego to ridiculous heights, and just like comfort is crucial to a woman’s orgasm, confidence is crucial to a man’s. Knowing my mouth and fingers can turn a previously well-adjusted, smart, strong woman into a moaning, shaking, incoherent puddle of goo, is something that’ll never get old; especially since I put my partner’s needs before mine, and can only truly enjoy sex if I know she’s enjoying it.

So, in conclusion, I think pussy eating is hot, I think it’s a confidence builder — for both parties, and given how many women enjoy it — I think it’s necessary to perform.