h2>Dating : How Not to Cop a Feel
Enough famous men have been called out for violating lady boundaries that dudes I know are concerned.
“Could I be next?”
Tides of testosterone swell and crash against the jagged rocky awareness of toxic masculinity.
“I never even heard of that before,” pines one of my 24 year old students. If ignorance can be bliss, awareness can be torment.
Even social media landscapes are projecting classic discomfort, fear response, questions and reflections. Male privilege is abundantly threatened. Rightly so.
“I love losing privileges,” said no one. Ever. Plenty of men can reason structural male privilege to be unjust.
Having gold ripped from your foundation when you didn’t even know of your riches isn’t merely unpleasant.
It’s natural cause for alarm and curiosity.
“Wait — there’s gold down there?”
Defenses up! Guard your treasure, anything less is inhuman.
That gold belongs to you. Your identity as a man, the very fabric of your being.
No one deserves to take that away. Ever.
Unless you’re the one doing all the taking.
Most men (and women who love them) are simply doing what they have always been taught. To take without full awareness of your power and impact. To give without ever acknowledging your true value.
Planet Earth is setup that way.
When I made the “How to Not #metoo” video, I used humor because the dudes I chill with thrive on comedic storytelling. The best jokes about pain uses humor that heals.
Great educators know that entertainment helps learning stick and makes long days move faster.
Master teachers can be spotted demonstrating how a little awareness and a lot of practice cures most any social ill.
All jokes aside, here are a few nuggets of wisdom to never, ever, fear being a man surrounded by modern women.
Or as my favorite social worker would say:
How Not to Cop a Feel
- Treat women like men. I mean show that human being some respect. A real man knows exactly how to disrespect another man. You know when you’re asking for trouble. Apply that wisdom to ladies and you’ll be strait.
- Feed and drink to fulfill your desires outside of work. That way, you’re more focused on the job or being with lovely like minded, still sexy, men and women of your career.
- Study and Practice. Women want sex as much as men but too many would-be lovers don’t bring phenomenal attention, connection or focus. It’s sad ya’ll. Sex is one of those things that everyone’s ego assumes they are good at but that doesn’t fit the laws of reality. You’re already wise enough to know, if you want to do better in the match up, practice ahead of game time. Then, women you work with are more likely to come on to you because the one thing all women are looking to find, are amazing lovers.
- Attract from your strengths. You know we all have them. What are yours? Do you think you know or do you have verifiable results? Learn to amplify the elements of your social and physical skill and abilities. There’s one thing on the planet that has infinite intellectual capacity and it’s being human. You are always growing and developing. Apply that wisdom to being with women at home and if it doesn’t make your life more satisfying I will give you a dollar. At work, you become more likely to be approached by career cuties than being reported by one.
- Practice consent. Keep your body parts to yourself unless explicitly invited. Always. Always. I promise its just as hot when you ask her to get on her knees. The request does not significantly degrade any pleasure. The fact is, all harassment, rape, and sexual misconduct of any kind destroys consent and free will. Taking away free will is the number one human injustice. Wouldn’t you agree?
It’s not an exhaustive list but you don’t need anything else to thrive in the connection between men and women, responsibly, professionally and sexy.
