Dating : It was probably a Saturday morning around 11 years ago when my father held me by my collar and…

It was probably a Saturday morning around 11 years ago when my father held me by my collar and threw me across the room.I should mention or I guess that there was a slap, can’t seem to remember that one, head trauma I guess. This was the last time he ever put his hands on me and the lesson was well learnt, DO NOT LIE.I had lied about breaking something I’m sure.

This was the start of the lessons I now want to share on being a man. There are many but the experiences in my life at the moment have highlighted these three.

1. Tell the truth.

Apart from the very entertaining african love discipline I mentioned earlier, there is a moment I can clearly recall when I didn’t necessarily lie, but neither did I tell the truth. It was the summer of 2017 and the birds were singing and cupid was about. He struck a damsel as she was glancing past me and rugged good looks got her attention. She approached me!!! Don’t you just love that, men? No? Yes? Well she did and I like confident women. We ended up having a situationship where we were very clear that we were not friends nor were planning to be but yet not really in a relationship. Now as we were in this honeymoon phase I became aware that she was now best friends with another girl that I had also had a thing with, the weird thing is, this story makes me sound like such a Casanova, I acknowledge that. But I’m not, which is also something that a Casanova would say. We really had not left things in the right place as I had not been a very great person with the previous thing. I had been an idiot and just a bad human being in general. Never thought it would come back to haunt me, but there was God, sitting with a box of popcorn and waiting to see how this all plays out. As you can guess, things didn’t really go my way. I did not tell the truth, which would have helped to get in front of the situation, to both girls and mostly to myself. We seem to have a habit as humans to lie to ourselves the most. So, lesson number one, TELL THE TRUTH.

2. Be Principled.

The kind of man you want to be, the time of man you want to be attracted to, should be one with his own Principles. The principles one has are like pillars that ground him to the world that is so easy to lose oneself in. My number one on this is be a man of your word