Dating : Lessons Learned From Hitting On 17 Girls in 3 Days

So over the past 3 days, I approached 17 girls and asked them on a date. Here’s a quick breakdown:

1 just straight up ignored me.

1 said “Ohh, no thank you, nope!”

5 said they had a boyfriend (or they we’re married, oops)

6 stopped and we had a conversation, but either it was really short or I didn’t ask for their number

4 we had a conversation and they gave me their number

Two of them actually texted back. After I asked them on dates, one didn’t respond and one couldn’t make it. So on one hand I have no results, on the other hand I learned a lot.

Okay, here are some things I learned:

Oddly enough the harshest rejections came from the most unattractive girls. And, the ones who were already in a relationship were most friendly.

My “approach anxiety” on the third day was much lower than the first. I just asked a stranger for directions at the beginning and was good to go. I wasn’t really even thinking about being nervous at that point, I was just looking for girls.

On the approaches that went relatively well, I tried to speak slowly and calmly. I think that makes it easier to actually have a conversation because you don’t scare her off. It seems VERY easy to scare someone during the day, and I don’t want to do that. Most people assume you are trying to get something from them. I think instead I will try to make the other person’s day better. I’ll at least try to have more empathy.

In the future, I’m going to try to have better conversations and see how it goes. I’m not an expert or anything with this stuff, but thanks for reading! Maybe you found it useful.